scott fitzgerald
New Member
Hi all,
I am going around in circles so I wonder if any of you can help me. I've never enjoyed socialising but made myself do it because I wanted to improve. I used to walk home from school aged 14, repeating to myself how a joke worked over and over again to try to drill it into me. Over time I have got much better but I still never enjoy socializing in the same way I think others do. I hope to get through it with my friends intact. Sometimes I don't manage that and end up going home having upset someone or said something which I didn't predict was going to be such a bad thing to say. To me any idea is just some words and the worst it should be is... "hey Scott, you might want to think about why that last bit doesn't go down so well with a lot of people, doesn't really matter, but worth thinking about". Instead it seems now my friends have finally got tired of how I am usually too serious, usually too negative, often overthinking things, or dumping too much information down in a text message so that people are overwhelmed and don't reply at all to me. I upset nearly everyone on Facebook when ISIS were around by telling them that the people in this militant group get most of their ideas from Islam. For me it was verifiably true and I wanted to talk about why everyone doesn't need to be scared to say so. But it just got more and more awkward, now many of the friends I had just totally ostricized me. The ones I have left are getting more and more tired of me.
Is it possible that I have problems with autism and should try to get help or could it be that I'm just a rude person who creates their own problems and should face up to that.
Thanks all,
Scott, 46 years old
I am going around in circles so I wonder if any of you can help me. I've never enjoyed socialising but made myself do it because I wanted to improve. I used to walk home from school aged 14, repeating to myself how a joke worked over and over again to try to drill it into me. Over time I have got much better but I still never enjoy socializing in the same way I think others do. I hope to get through it with my friends intact. Sometimes I don't manage that and end up going home having upset someone or said something which I didn't predict was going to be such a bad thing to say. To me any idea is just some words and the worst it should be is... "hey Scott, you might want to think about why that last bit doesn't go down so well with a lot of people, doesn't really matter, but worth thinking about". Instead it seems now my friends have finally got tired of how I am usually too serious, usually too negative, often overthinking things, or dumping too much information down in a text message so that people are overwhelmed and don't reply at all to me. I upset nearly everyone on Facebook when ISIS were around by telling them that the people in this militant group get most of their ideas from Islam. For me it was verifiably true and I wanted to talk about why everyone doesn't need to be scared to say so. But it just got more and more awkward, now many of the friends I had just totally ostricized me. The ones I have left are getting more and more tired of me.
Is it possible that I have problems with autism and should try to get help or could it be that I'm just a rude person who creates their own problems and should face up to that.
Thanks all,
Scott, 46 years old