It was someone who hated me on Wrong Planet.Out of curiosity, who told you this? Who said that?
Is it, uh... without using names, is this the individual we've talked about before?
Or was this someone else?
Was this recent?
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It was someone who hated me on Wrong Planet.Out of curiosity, who told you this? Who said that?
Is it, uh... without using names, is this the individual we've talked about before?
Or was this someone else?
Was this recent?
It's not working.I don’t love it. I do it because I have to get my emotions out of my head.
Such an obsession is a red flag that somebody may become too compulsively clingy and controlling. That will scare many women.a therapist should help you detaching your fixation from the girlfriend topic and help you guiding your energy on everything else and that´s the most probable way to get a girlfriend. to not think about it too much and to focus on other things (first).
I have no idea, but maybe that fixation could be part of a obsessive-compulsive disorder? maybe it is totally wrong, but it came to mind.
I don´t mean that mean, but you´re so obsessed in wanting a girlfriend, that most women would be scared when she would find out that you are thinking so much about it. it would probably feel strange for her or she would get the impression that you would be an unstable person.
Such an obsession is a red flag that somebody may become too compulsively clingy and controlling. That will scare many women.
Don't worry about trying hard. Love will find you.
@Yeshuasdaughter , you know my tale of meeting my spouse when I called her to see if she would like to car pool to a trip. I don't know precisely what I was thinking except I thought it would be nice to share the experience with a woman. The furthest thing on my mind was starting a relationship from 291 miles away so I thought it would be safe for a one-off encounter with no expectation other than good company. Little did I know. After that I ended up putting on a lot of miles visiting.Don't worry about trying hard. Love will find you. It'll fall into your life one day and surprise you. It's not this thing that happens when you're trying really hard. It's more of a thing where you meet someone by chance, and you just click.
It's not a cheesy "Hey ladies, are you available?" type thing, that people try for. Real love happens by accident.
Make sure everywhere you go, practice good grooming, and be polite, yet assertive/ confident. Open doors for women, children, and elders. Grab stuff off high shelves for ladies at the store. Say stuff like "Let me get that for you". And smile.
If a man likes a woman, often he makes assertive eye contact with her. And you'll know a girl likes you, because she will look away a little bit, in a shy way. Learn nonverbal cues. A lot of us brush right past people who have true affection for us because we don't recognize the signs.
Good luck.
It’s hard for me to not think about it when I constantly see couples everywhere I go in this culture I live in.It's not working.
Instead, you're prolonging the agony.
Try telling yourself something different when you see them.It’s hard for me to not think about it when I constantly see couples everywhere I go in this culture I live in.
And what are you doing to alleviate that? Since I have been here I have seen you get all sorts of valuable advice, which you rarely countenance. I fear that you have become a prisoner of your learned helplessness, and until you change yourself you are in the cage of habits that prevent your success.It’s hard for me to not think about it when I constantly see couples everywhere I go in this culture I live in.
Liking animals got me bullied and considered boring instead of liked. Volunteering, in my experience, has never lead to making even friends.As a guy I think this is good advice. Animals. My yorkie attracted women like crazy. She attracted more women than 20 year old Johnny Depp. And you should help animals anyway, so you get to do something good and hang out with animals and you might meet someone.
Liking animals got me bullied and considered boring instead of liked. Volunteering, in my experience, has never lead to making even friends.
Having a cat has never lead to a date nor did having a French bulldog puppy that’s no longer around.
I can’t start a reading group at the library even if I wanted to. There are already book clubs that cater to certain demographics so there is no room for more and I’ve honestly lost my passion for reading.
Volunteering has always been presented to me as a way to gain experience for skills and interact socially. It’s never been framed as something enjoyable for the sake of it.Have you never volunteered for the joy of it?
Rather than for what perks you might gain from it?
I don't know why "having a cat" would lead to a date, anyway.
Cats typically stay home. Who would know that you had a cat,
unless you mentioned it? And that would be an instance of
socializing, if you had conversations about the cat and what it
did.
Seeing a dog frequently leads to minor interactions for me.
Smiling at the dog, getting permission from the human to
interact with the dog, offering the back of my hand to sniff.
Speaking to the dog, telling it complementary things in
a calm voice. People enjoy other people enjoying seeing
their pets.
I don't have a dog. I am not very doggy. If I see an individual
that is appealing, standing still to admire and maybe speak
with the owners happens. Happiness multiplies.
How can I re-gain the passion without losing it all over again?When you lose passion for things, this is the energy you give off, and woman aren't seduced by this.
Try it.Volunteering has always been presented to me as a way to gain experience for skills and interact socially. It’s never been framed as something enjoyable for the sake of it.