How do I navigate conflict with my Aspie husband.

[Catherine Crowne]

It isnt up to you to help him develop emotionally. It isnt up to you to decide if that is what he needs or wants.
You have needs he isnt able to meet, you both are different, that doesnt make him in need of “fixing”.

Thank you. I understand what you are saying. Actually everyone’s response has given me new insight to myself.

 

[Nervous Rex]

One approach is to compliment him for behavior you want to encourage. Positive reinforcement is much safer than negative or conflict.

 

[Catherine Crowne]

One approach is to compliment him for behavior you want to encourage. Positive reinforcement is much safer than negative or conflict.

I know you are right. We have had some good talks lately.
The truth is that I need to work on my communication style. I’m learning a few things about my own issues.
Reading what others have posted has helped me tremendously.

 

[Tom]

I think peaceful conflict resolution isn't exactly a Homo Sapiens strength, whether a person is on the spectrum or neurotypical. I don't have any specific suggestions other then to say I came to think of continually working on it as one of the most important aspects of a good relationship.

 

[Catherine Crowne]

I think peaceful conflict resolution isn't exactly a Homo Sapiens strength, whether a person is on the spectrum or neurotypical. I don't have any specific suggestions other then to say I came to think of continually working on it as one of the most important aspects of a good relationship.

You’re spot on I’d say. I keep thinking we can get to a point where there is no conflict. But if a person is honest and respects themselves, then they do need to speak up.
That goes for both of us.