I married a nice guy. At the time when we met, he had just finished school, had no job, and was living at home. So with me at least, material success was never a factor. I liked that he was a deep thinker and we could have great debates. And he has beautiful eyes. He is an eccentric NT. To be honest, at that time I drank a lot and hung out with a couple annoying and shallow women. I was lost and very unhappy, but trying to blend. Drinking was the only thing that helped me "fit in." Not that I'd recommend this to anyone, but that is how I met my husband. Otherwise, I would never had been at a bar. It is easier for women, in that I have never actively pursued a man. They pursued me. Usually dumped me pretty quick too. But my husband is more introverted than most NTs, but still way more social than me. I like to think that our differences balance each other out. Our core values are the same, so it works. He gives me a lot of space. I'm not clingy, like some women can be but I definitely am high maintenance. I'm moody, don't communicate all that well, and given to meltdowns. Both of us have had to learn how to deal with each other in effective ways. I try to get out of my comfort zone, at least a little, and he has had to learn patience. His expectations of what a woman should do has definitely had to change as well. He had a very traditional mother, so he thinks I should do the things she did, like dinner parties and PTA (as if!). I'm not a conventional wife or a conventional mother. But I bring some good traits to the relationship as well, and he sees that. Overall, we are still a work in progress. I think all relationships are like this though. Is it harder for us??depends on each person's traits and issues, and the dynamics and expectations between the couple.