I'm not entirely sure if this is where this thread belongs, because I'm not a parent (sorry). I'm the sister of an autistic 16 year old, and I'd really appreciate some help. My parents don't really make any effort to understand the thought processes of an autistic child, and don't try to understand certain things that are attributed to it either. So it's kind of left up to me, and because of that, my brother and I are pretty close. He tells me more than he'll tell our parents. That's not to say that I know what I'm doing, though...
Recently, my brother has been able to get back with a girlfriend he had in the past (I believe she's also autistic, if that matters at all). Ever since, he's kind of been obsessed with her. He's constantly talking about her, thinking about her, making things for her, worrying about her, etc. I thought it was kind of cute at first, but now it's impacting things like his chores, schoolwork, conversations (because it's pretty much all he'll talk about), and most recently, his behavior.
I've tried explaining to him in the simplest, most obvious way, that she is not the whole world and he has to be able to focus on other things. The day after I sat and had that talk with him, he came home and told me he got in trouble and almost got suspended for kissing her in the hallway in front of a teacher. Since then, he's had a couple more infractions over PDA (although smaller, like hugging and holding hands, he apparently is very close to being expelled for it?). My parents found out and are resorting to hour-long yelling sessions over it, as if that's going to make a difference.
I guess what I'm asking is, can anyone give me some suggestions/advice on what to do? I have no idea what to do about this and I really don't like the way that my parents are treating this. I feel like it'll just make him shut down and stop talking to everyone.
Recently, my brother has been able to get back with a girlfriend he had in the past (I believe she's also autistic, if that matters at all). Ever since, he's kind of been obsessed with her. He's constantly talking about her, thinking about her, making things for her, worrying about her, etc. I thought it was kind of cute at first, but now it's impacting things like his chores, schoolwork, conversations (because it's pretty much all he'll talk about), and most recently, his behavior.
I've tried explaining to him in the simplest, most obvious way, that she is not the whole world and he has to be able to focus on other things. The day after I sat and had that talk with him, he came home and told me he got in trouble and almost got suspended for kissing her in the hallway in front of a teacher. Since then, he's had a couple more infractions over PDA (although smaller, like hugging and holding hands, he apparently is very close to being expelled for it?). My parents found out and are resorting to hour-long yelling sessions over it, as if that's going to make a difference.
I guess what I'm asking is, can anyone give me some suggestions/advice on what to do? I have no idea what to do about this and I really don't like the way that my parents are treating this. I feel like it'll just make him shut down and stop talking to everyone.