• Feeling isolated? You're not alone.

    Join 20,000+ people who understand exactly how your day went. Whether you're newly diagnosed, self-identified, or supporting someone you love – this is a space where you don't have to explain yourself.

    Join the Conversation → It's free, anonymous, and supportive.

    As a member, you'll get:

    • A community that actually gets it – no judgment, no explanations needed
    • Private forums for sensitive topics (hidden from search engines)
    • Real-time chat with others who share your experiences
    • Your own blog to document your journey

    You've found your people. Create your free account

Feeling extremely low again

Markness

Markness

Wondering Soul
V.I.P Member
Despite making my best efforts to get out and socialize like I’ve been posting on my status updates lately, I still feel very low in my overall emotional health. Today, I feel particularly low. At my age (37) and current life-status (Part-time work and no college degree.), can things still ever get better? I need to be strong but how can I keep going when I feel so weak?
 
This is the question you are continually asking yourself.
Whether things can get better.....

You've been going out to places and enjoying conversations
you've had with people. But you discount that, as if the activity
were of no value.

Review your eating and sleeping habits, regarding the feeling
of weakness. And stop discounting the incremental nature
of socializing.
 
my tip for improving mental well being is to do one small thing you've never done before.

It doesn't need to be anything significant or the beginning of a larger objective. And try to avoid things you think you should be doing and focus on things you could be doing.

It's a little game you can play and you may discover things that energise you, you may also do something and decide never again, it doesn't matter. If you do it deliberately for a while you find yourself doing it more spontaneously.

If you're working part time maybe plan small things for days off? tiny things like today I'm going to drink my morning coffee outside or when I pass that shop i keep passing i'm going to go in just to see the inside.

Don't beat yourself up for not getting what you need from socialising. If you're feeling low it's an exhausting feat even with people you might usually find easy.
 
Sorry you are feeling depressed. l think a lot of people suffer from am l good enough for a relationship. You sound quite normal to me.
 
Markness said:
Despite making my best efforts to get out and socialize like I’ve been posting on my status updates lately, I still feel very low in my overall emotional health. Today, I feel particularly low. At my age (37) and current life-status (Part-time work and no college degree.), can things still ever get better? I need to be strong but how can I keep going when I feel so weak?
Click to expand...
In general, allowing external comparisons to control your mental state is unhealthy.

The healthy path is to work to "Be the best possible version of yourself".
A similarly "mostly true" quote is "Life is a journey, not a destination".
Both of those imply that you should look forward, not back, which is also a good principle.

OFC it's possible to make mistakes along the way: for example setting tangible life goals is difficult, as is tuning life goals to reality.
Unsurprisingly there's a quote for that too: "Better to try and fail than not to try at all".

The modern digital world is full of examples of the dangers of making unreasonable comparisons.
The large-scale negative consequences of unreasonable expectations are having an "interesting" effect on the "dating war" right now (**).

"Stop doing X" isn't the same as "You should do Y" of course, but FWIW:
You made a post a week or two ago ago that showed you know the difference between avoidance/denial and small-scale positive behavior. Keep doing that.

(**)
There's a Pew study from 2020, but be a bit careful of online interpretations and comments. Not all influencers are can count /lol. I found the study easily via D2G while writing this.

P.S. The "destination" of every life is the same. "Life is a journey, not a destination" implies that, but I prefer the upbeat style. There are, however, some good quotes starting with "You only have one life to live". A couple of examples:

Most common: "You only have one life to live. Make the most of it".
Closest to the first line of this post: "You only have one life to live. Make sure it's yours".
 
tree said:
This is the question you are continually asking yourself.
Whether things can get better.....

You've been going out to places and enjoying conversations
you've had with people. But you discount that, as if the activity
were of no value.

Review your eating and sleeping habits, regarding the feeling
of weakness. And stop discounting the incremental nature
of socializing.
Click to expand...
Do I just need to keep making actions in that regard?

I need to eat less than I usually do and I am making a habit of sleeping earlier.
 
monkeyclogs said:
my tip for improving mental well being is to do one small thing you've never done before.

It doesn't need to be anything significant or the beginning of a larger objective. And try to avoid things you think you should be doing and focus on things you could be doing.

It's a little game you can play and you may discover things that energise you, you may also do something and decide never again, it doesn't matter. If you do it deliberately for a while you find yourself doing it more spontaneously.

If you're working part time maybe plan small things for days off? tiny things like today I'm going to drink my morning coffee outside or when I pass that shop i keep passing i'm going to go in just to see the inside.

Don't beat yourself up for not getting what you need from socialising. If you're feeling low it's an exhausting feat even with people you might usually find easy.
Click to expand...
Sometimes buying a new comic book issue helps me feel better. I need to buy a replacement card for one I accidentally caused to get soaked so that could help as well.

I usually don’t work on Sunday and Monday.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

New Threads

Top Bottom