It was more important to them than being caring parents and our mental well-being’s.Keeping up appearances was important to them.
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It was more important to them than being caring parents and our mental well-being’s.Keeping up appearances was important to them.
Personally, I don't even like the described attitude. A guy needs to be a little bit socially awkward to even have a cute factor to be drawn to as well as seeming more relatable ( some science nerd vibes don't hurt either ). Confident go-get attitude guys make me very uncomfortable and I could not imagine going out with them. They seem so unrelatable too. Why would I want to date someone if I can't even relate to their basic brain wiring at all ?So called "bad boys" just help themselves to what they want. They want sex? They find a vulnerable woman that good guys would feel too exploitative to take advantage of. It's not the "badness" we are attracted to, it's confidence and go-get-it attitude, it's just unfortunate that less-scrupled men are often the ones to embody that attitude.
Sadly, there are a lot of stigmas against shy people in the crummy culture I live in. Someone who is loud and reckless is actually considered more acceptable than someone who is quiet and careful.Personally, I don't even like the described attitude. A guy needs to be a little bit socially awkward to even have a cute factor to be drawn to as well as seeming more relatable ( some science nerd vibes don't hurt either ). Confident go-get attitude guys make me very uncomfortable and I could not imagine going out with them. They seem so unrelatable too. Why would I want to date someone if I can't even relate to their basic brain wiring at all ?
I don’t understand how my efforts throughout the last five years didn’t succeed. Other people told me it was guaranteed I would have a partner but I am still single.
I don't have to improve anything.You have the ability to make changes within certain limits. Find the areas where you can improve and get moving on them.
I don’t understand how my efforts throughout the last five years didn’t succeed. Other people told me it was guaranteed I would have a partner but I am still single.
Everyone has room for improvement somewhere. In your case, perhaps start with your defeatist attitude.I don't have to improve anything.
You're reading something else into what I said.You make it sound like I need to improve myself just to impress some superficial girl.
Sure does. I've got this neat thing called life experience that I have learned from.In reality it doesn't work like that.
I don't have to improve anything.
You make it sound like I need to improve myself just to impress some superficial girl.
In reality it doesn't work like that.
Me, too, even have a girlfriend or just a real solo hang.i already know my parents won't witness me get married
yeah, even though my parents sort of got to witness something of me, even though in other posts, i am reluctant to call my previous partner an ex, it felt like we were more friends instead, but she was the first woman i introduced to my parents and in which i met her parents as well, but yeah, thinking about her makes me angry, yeah, i just hate human nature a lot at times.Me, too, even have a girlfriend or just a real solo hang.
In all likelihood, the reason your brother is more successful at dating is because he's more socially adept than you, not because of aggression, hostility or some other negative trait. Aspies notoriously struggle with social skills and non-verbal communication, which makes it more difficult to perceive and create dating opportunities as a heterosexual man.This is something that regularly eats at me and has done so for many years now. My older brother has always been more socially adept than me and has been married with five children (The same number of children our own father has sired.) for some years now. While I don’t deny that my older brother has always been more socially outgoing than I have been, he has also been very aggressive and even hostile towards other people. He’s even denigrated women but he’s always had dates and girlfriends.
I keep fearing that I will have to become like him, even though I dislike a lot of his traits and I was constantly in his shadow during my developmental years.
yup, not worth me repeating, you should know what i'm getting at, and obviously thats going to affect mens dating lives more than womens dating lives, even hearing stories of people, mainly guys, men, who eventually got girlfriends/wives, but later than the societal norm, its still easy to get depressed and resentful of cases/stories like that, not everyone gets to have relationships around the traditional societal timelineIn all likelihood, the reason your brother is more successful at dating is because he's more socially adept than you, not because of aggression, hostility or some other negative trait. Aspies notoriously struggle with social skills and non-verbal communication, which makes it more difficult to perceive and create dating opportunities as a heterosexual man.
He would even tell me I needed to be a “jackass” like him if I wanted the girls’ attention. But I can’t list most of what he did here because most of it was really crude and vulgar actions.In all likelihood, the reason your brother is more successful at dating is because he's more socially adept than you, not because of aggression, hostility or some other negative trait. Aspies notoriously struggle with social skills and non-verbal communication, which makes it more difficult to perceive and create dating opportunities as a heterosexual man.