Hi! I am so glad to have found this discussion board. I am a Rehabilitation Counselor and work with individuals with Aspergers Syndrome near daily. However, I have never dated one before and I am learning it's a whole different world. I am very attracted to him, we are in our Midtwenties, and I can tell he is attracted to me too. He hasn't ever really learned about his Aspergers until recently and hasn't dated for over 4 years. His major relationships ended badly. My last relationship also ended badly and I now know I developed some insecurities from it.
I have a strong personality and stand up for myself. The guy I am seeing has an explosive temper. I have called him on it and he says he doesn't know why he explodes with me, he says he hasn't done that with anybody else. We almost called things off yesterday because we started to have almost daily conflict. The weirdest things really irritate him. He got a kitten this week and I asked him what the kittens personality was like and he WENT OFF saying a kitten doesn't have a personality and doesn't get why I asked that question. Things like that. I rely like him but I can't handle this if he keeps exploding. I am now seeing yesterday as a come to Jesus moment and realize that a lot of chit chat doesn't work well with him but we are just getting to know each other so I'm not sure what to do.
How do I reconcile my need not to feel emotionally abused with his explosive word vomit sometimes and how he interprets some of my questions like above? I want this to work and think it can but he doesn't accommodate my insecurities. When I told him I'm trying to accommodate his needs, he should accommodate mine, that's when he states that he wondered if this is too much work. Neither of us have had this rocky of a start to dating. We aren't "committed" but we are interested in only each other.
Help!
I have a strong personality and stand up for myself. The guy I am seeing has an explosive temper. I have called him on it and he says he doesn't know why he explodes with me, he says he hasn't done that with anybody else. We almost called things off yesterday because we started to have almost daily conflict. The weirdest things really irritate him. He got a kitten this week and I asked him what the kittens personality was like and he WENT OFF saying a kitten doesn't have a personality and doesn't get why I asked that question. Things like that. I rely like him but I can't handle this if he keeps exploding. I am now seeing yesterday as a come to Jesus moment and realize that a lot of chit chat doesn't work well with him but we are just getting to know each other so I'm not sure what to do.
How do I reconcile my need not to feel emotionally abused with his explosive word vomit sometimes and how he interprets some of my questions like above? I want this to work and think it can but he doesn't accommodate my insecurities. When I told him I'm trying to accommodate his needs, he should accommodate mine, that's when he states that he wondered if this is too much work. Neither of us have had this rocky of a start to dating. We aren't "committed" but we are interested in only each other.
Help!