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Dating Corner

Discussion in 'Love, Relationships and Dating' started by RavenSly, Jan 29, 2012.

  1. granty1988

    granty1988 Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

    May 28, 2017
    Username: Granty1988
    Gender: Male
    Age: 29
    Sexuality: Heterosexual
    Location: Oxford, United Kingdom
    Religion: None
    Politics: Undecided
    Philosophy: Treat people how you wish to be treated, keep an open mind no matter how much you think you know, and always try to do the right thing.
    Obsessions/Interests: Movies, outdoor pursuits, nature, museums,
    Desired Partner Characteristics: Would like someone that is true to themselves and confident.
    Self-Description: Ive been called, kind, caring and a good listener, i will do everything to help people. Im usually a quiet person, somewhat of a gentle giant. If you would like to know anything else about me please feel free to ask.
  2. Amanda241

    Amanda241 Member

    Aug 19, 2018
    I look as I do in my avatar :)

    Username: Amanda241
    Gender: female
    Age: 47
    Sexuality: Pan sexual = Pansexuality, or omnisexuality, is the sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others. Source: Wikipedia
    Location: Manchester, UK
    Religion: C of E christened, Jewish descent (I do practise the good bits and ignore the bad bits!)
    Politics: Remainer in the Referendum and used to vote Labour until Corbyn came along...
    Philosophy: Each to their own.
    Obsessions/Interests: Law, specifically employment. Love sci fi and GoT, Star Trek/Wars; not a fan of comic cons... Love to read and love archaeology and architecture; dogs and cooking...like motorbikes and lots of different types of music, but mostly classical, if I was on a desert island. Love prog rock too. Rollercoasters and waterparks are also big hits with me!
    Desired Partner Characteristics: Gender and age don't matter to me or your sexual identity - if you are loyal, honest , sincere and loving then I'm happy with that. I'd prefer you are largely self sufficient - own place and job - as I don't wish to financially support anyone. I'm a supportive person and hope for the same. I do get needy at times and like hugs/kisses/reassurance. My ideal partner would be my best friend and partner in one.
    Self-Description: Bit OCD; there's a reason for things being in a place! I'm not great at timekeeping...generally easy going, but if you F-up good style, I'm not known for having a forgiving nature...I'm faithful and loyal; sarcastic wit...generally try to be kind and understanding, though I am very direct and don't always understand the impact of what I'm saying. I'm a very loving person and I can go out and do things, but will happily burrow in my home if I can. The first signs of my being stressed is I'm snappy but will deny that there's anything wrong with me until I have a full meltdown.
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  3. Isadoorian

    Isadoorian Well Known Chat Member, Welcomer of Newcomers V.I.P Member

    May 16, 2018
    Username: Isadoorian, Isa for short
    Gender: Male
    Age: 22
    Sexuality: Straight/Heterosexual
    Location: British Columbia, Canada
    Religion: Apatheist
    Politics: No Affiliation
    Philosophy: Wheaton's Law and Bill & Teds Excellent Advice
    Hobbies/interests: Video Games, Reading, Cooking, Baking, Listening to Music, PC related stuff
    What do you want in your Partner: Just someone whose into the same things as myself; doesn't need to be exact, of course. Not much for judging though I personally find large gaps between front teeth to be unattractive, and same with being morbidly obese, it's just not healthy whatsoever. I'd also like my partner to be Childfree, meaning not having kids in their life whatsoever
    Describe yourself: Humorous, self reserved, can be fairly serious when needed to be and can be quite the chatter box but generally I keep to myself
  4. TheSocialNerd

    TheSocialNerd Active Member

    Jul 10, 2018
    Username: TheSocialNerd
    Gender: Male
    Age: 20 (I'm fine with as young as 19, as old as 24-25 for a partner)
    Sexuality: Straight
    Location: Melbourne, Australia
    Religion: Not entirely sure - I believe in God, but I don't subscribe to any particular relgion. So I guess Agnostic, at this point?
    Politics: Undecided, hodgepodge of socialist and liberal, I think.
    Philosophy: I live life on my own terms. But I try and do good and bring good into the world through helping others and just generally being kind.
    Obsessions/Interests: I love music, film/TV, reading and writing. I want to make a living as a writer eventually.
    Desired Partner Characteristics: Someone that gets me and is willing to accept my flaws. Someone that is more relaxed than I am (I'm a worrier). Someone with a great sense of humour, willing to try new things (maybe a tough ask - I'm mild high functioning though, and I like to push myself), creative, loving.
    Self-Description: A man with an intellectual spirit. I like to think deeply about things, sometimes to my detriment. I am currently studying a Bachelor of Arts at university, Majoring in Creative Writing with a minor in Literature. I plan to do a Masters once I've finished. I am also doing a Diploma in Music alongside this.

    I love animals and being out in nature, when I'm not in my own head. My favourite animal is a dolphin because they're incredibly intelligent and very playful. I play the guitar, sing and write my own songs. I also write poetry, short fiction and screenplays. I have written a novel, but it's not very good!

    I love philosophy, history (particularly the French Revolution - I just find it fascinating), and a good book. The last book I read was If On A Winter's Night A Traveler, by Italo Calvino.

    More than almost anything, I love to laugh. I think humour is one of the greatest antidotes to loneliness, depression and anxiety. I watch a lot of sitcoms because of this - some of my favourites are Scrubs, Community, Arrested Development and Bojack Horseman.

    So yeah, that's me. Feel free to message me if you're interested in chatting further or knowing anything else! Hope to hear from some of you :)
  5. Ginseng

    Ginseng Christian V.I.P Member

    Aug 13, 2018
    Username: Momster
    Gender female
    Age: 63
    Sexuality: heterosexual
    Location: Texas, near Austin
    Religion: Christian
    Politics: Republican sometimes Libertarian
    Philosophy: It is best to obey God.
    Obsessions/Interests: Biblical truth, playing the same songs over and over and over and over. But I only do that when I am alone. Unless someone else wants to listen to the same songs over and over and over and over again. ;);););)
    Desired Partner Characteristics: The most important thing to me is that they be a Christian and worship God. They must be kind and calm. No yelling and cursing. I grew up with that.
    Self-Description: I am over weight. I have a good sense of humor. I love to work with plants. I love organic foods, gardening, dogs and cats. I would love to have some chickens but they scare me. o_OBut I would still want some. I like to relax with a drink every once in a while. Right now sounds good. Been pretty stressed lately.
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  6. china autie

    china autie friend to dogs and frogs and cats

    Oct 1, 2018
    Username:china autie

    Gender: androgenenous gender fluid female
    Sexuality: bi
    Location: nys
    Politics:disgusted with American politics. Democrat but wondering if I should be libertarian or anarchist.
    Philosophy: doing the best I can with what I got.
    Obsessions/Interests: My passions are my animals, nature, frogs and birds and mushrooms and trees and weeds, computer stuff, and doing research. I also like to travel and swim and walk in the woods.
    Desired Partner Characteristics:quiet, not afraid of silence, must like reading in bookstores, eating out, and nature stuff too. Kind, thoughtful, sincere.
    Self-Description: I am in my 60s. I dress for comfort, no makeup. I am quiet until I get to know you. I am in long term recovery from addiction so I can't be around drugs./B]
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  7. some/aspies/need/hugs/13

    some/aspies/need/hugs/13 Member

    Jan 26, 2019
    Username: some/aspies/need/hugs/13
    Gender: male
    Age: 24 (I turn 25 next week)
    Sexuality: Straight
    Location: as of March 8th 30 miles north of Tallahassee, FL, USA
    Religion: Christian but don't identify with a specific denomination of Church.
    Politics: Conservative
    Philosophy: All that is required for the triumph of evil is for good people to do nothing. Treat others as you would want to be treated.
    Obsessions/interests: I love history, video games, cycling, MacGyver (both classic and new series), hiking, target practice, hunting, fishing, reading, riddles.
    Ideal Partner Characteristics: loves to hug and cuddle, independent, kind, understanding. Needs to be willing to have conversations about emotions, needs and desires, boundaries, relationship goals, etc. would prefer someone who is willing to be the one initiating hugs and cuddles but also willing to let me cuddle up to them if I want or need to.
    About me: my name is Jimmy and I have Asperger's. I love showing I care through touch. I am very open and honest. I respect boundaries and follow them to the letter. I am sensitive emotionally and prefer to calm down through touch. I love to be allowed to be my sensitive self without judgement. I am very caring and a gentleman. I love to be there for a partner when they need comfort.
    Anything else you want to know just ask me.
    Last edited: Feb 25, 2019
  8. marble

    marble Active Member

    Dec 3, 2018
    Username: marble

    Gender: Male

    Age: 34

    Sexuality: Straight

    Location: Sydney AUSTRALIA

    Interests and Etcetera: Lots of things, but I believe it's better to get to know someone through conversation rather than list off things here. So feel free to message me, I answer all messages.
  9. Joem1996

    Joem1996 New Member

    Mar 4, 2019
    My first post on here so hi everyone!

    Username: joem1996
    Gender: Male
    Age: 22
    Sexuality: Heterosexual
    Location: Kent, United Kingdom
    Religion: None
    Politics: Nothing in particular
    Philosophy: Go with the flow & be open minded to new things (both of which are easier said than done)
    Obsessions/Interests: Football, PS4, Marvel, Films and TV series (Game of Thrones, Better Call Saul and various others), Animals, Health, Psychology, Reading
    Desired Partner Characteristics: I would like to be with someone that is kind-hearted, honest and intelligent.
    Self-Description: I see myself as nice, funny and interesting behind closed doors. I’ve worked for the last three years but currently spend a lot of time alone. I’ve always wanted to have some form of close relationship but have been too shy and avoidant in the past. This means I can take a while to open up to people and have very little experience when it comes to dating and relationships so would want to take things slowly. Finally, I’m also nearly always told that I don’t look old enough to be 22 :rolleyes:

    Anyway, feel free to message me if you’d like to know more...
  10. jkwon

    jkwon Active Member V.I.P Member

    Apr 25, 2019
    Username: Jkwon
    Gender: Male
    Age: 22, b.1996
    Ethnicity: Korean-American, lived in Korea for first seven years of my life.
    Location: Cerritos, LA County, California.
    Religion: Agnostic Theist, Methodist. Chruch every week. My Mom said she won't pay for my college if I don't go to church with her.
    Politics: Independent
    Philosophy: N/A
    Obsessions/Interests: Tetris! I play so much when I feel stressed or anxious. I play both single player and multiplayer. I can drop over 2 pieces per second at minimum and over 4.5 pieces at maximum.
    Desired Partner characteristics:
    Kind, Smart, Some East Asian ethnicity, though it's okay if you aren't.

    I'm a community college student. I want to get a 4 year degree in electrical engineering since my brother has a degree in mechanical engineering. I am not diagnosed with ASD, I'm in the process of getting an ASD diagnosis.

    I dropped out in my final year of high school.
    I lived away from my family for 3.5 years. I moved back home because living alone with people that I didn't jive with was too tough for me.

    I'm trying my best to reach out to people and groups. e.g. school clubs, meetups via meetup.com, volunteering, non-profit organizations. e.g. STEM societies, Mensa. I can't help but feel that I am on the wrong planet.
    Eye contact is every difficult.
    The first obsession that I ever had was the eye.
    I tried to take my Mom's eye out when I was a baby.

    My diagnosis are:
    GAD, I have high amounts of anxiety.
    MDD, I have had undiagnosed depression since middle school after my father almost drowned me on the bathtub at age 11
    For GAD and MDD, I take Prozac 40mg everyday.
    PTSD, father also threatened to kill me and hit me on the head when I made eye contact with him.
    Last edited: Apr 25, 2019
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  11. Angelo54

    Angelo54 New Member

    Aug 29, 2018
  12. some/aspies/need/hugs/13

    some/aspies/need/hugs/13 Member

    Jan 26, 2019
    No longer needed

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  13. jared mills

    jared mills Rookie

    Apr 12, 2018
    Username:Jared Mills (also my full name)
    Location:Bronx,New York,USA
    Sexuality:Straight (also a chubby chaser,i like big women,sorry if this offended anyone or freaked anyone out)
    Interests:Anime (Boruto,Beyblade),Video Games,Martial Arts/Mixed Martial Arts,WWE
    Desired Partner Characteristics:someone who is also a female aspie,someone who is also a gamer herself,someone who is also a passionate cuddler.
    Philosophy:i firmly bellieve if you want something done right,you just gotta simply do it yourself & every aspie in the world should be free to do what they choose to do that makes them happy that people amongst your friends or family may not like,look how they choose to look (stand up straight,it cures lower backaches) !
  14. jared mills

    jared mills Rookie

    Apr 12, 2018
    that's why i prefer female aspies,even if they're chubby !
  15. Baeraad

    Baeraad Well-Known Member

    Jul 8, 2019
    Username: Baeraad
    Gender: Male
    Age: 38
    Sexuality: Heterosexual
    Location: Västerås, Sweden
    Religion: Atheist
    Politics: It's complicated, but liberal for most intents and purposes.
    Philosophy: I'm with Kurt Vonnegut - we are here to help each other get through this thing, whatever it is.
    Obsessions/Interests: Fiction, primarily sf/fantasy but any sort as long as it's well-written. That includes books, TV shows, musical theater, story-heavy video games, you name it. Roleplaying games. People.
    Desired Partner Characteristics: I would like someone who is kind and compassionate.
    Self-Description: I'm mild-mannered and caring. I want to give you whatever it is you need, though sometimes I might need to be told what that is (whether you want support or you want to be given your space, for instance). People fascinate me, so I want to hear your story. I can be a bit sensitive, so sometimes you might need to listen to me rant about some injustice or another, but I try to keep things in perspective. I pride myself on being reliable and dependable.
  16. SamD McTeer

    SamD McTeer New Member

    Sep 28, 2018
    Sorry, no photo of me yet as I'm terrified of having my picture taken.

    SamD McTeer (the initials for my actual name are in there)
    Gender: Male
    Age: 36
    Sexuality: Straight
    Location: South East Northumberland, England
    Religion: None
    Politics: Right wing politics worries me greatly.
    Philosophy: Don't be the person you don't want the world to be full of. Which is my way of reminding myself not to get involved in talking badly about others because I know how much it hurts when others talk badly about me. And it's okay to be wrong and change your view on something when new information comes to light. It's not a battle where you have to stand your ground and refuse to budge. Being wrong doesn't make you a bad person.
    Obsessions/Interests: Football (playing and watching), weightlifting, quizzes, horrors.
    Desired Partner Characteristics: Be female.
    Self-Description: I'm quite small, 5'4 ft, slim build. I exercise a fair bit (weightlifting, running, football).

    I like horrors, Bob's Burgers (it has some brilliant quotes I can always think of to amuse myself), taking quizzes and various music (specifically The Birthday Massacre to name one band off the top of my head). And I've been attempting to learn Spanish for the past year and have made some progress.

    I'm quite quiet and I'm convinced I don't belong in this world and might actually be a figment of other people's imagination.

    I don't drink alcohol and don't like pubs, I do like coffee and quiet cafes.

    Oh and I have a dog.
    Last edited: Jul 29, 2019
  17. kaminchu

    kaminchu New Member

    I won't post a photo here but if our conversation goes very well I would be willing to send you one.

    Location:Austria, Europe
    Philosophy:Low complexity, high fidelity.
    Obsessions/Interests:Music (from Keaton Henson to Depeche Mode to Slipknot, classical, very much 80s pop, some K-Pop, ESC,...); films (especially horror); reading (mostly non-fiction on Japan and / or Religion or Japanese novels); going for walks; polaroid photography; singing; eating; minimalism (I'm very moderate at it though); watching let's plays on YouTube and soccer; I like animals a lot
    Desired Partner Characteristics: somewhat similar interests; however I am willing to listen and interested in learning about new topics you care about if you are willing to explain them to me. I am very introverted and I don't like going out / to parties - it would be amazing if you felt the same. I do not mind going to concerts at all though. Other than that I appreciate loyalty, honesty and reliability. Non-smoker would be cool.
    Self-Description:I am a university student in the humanities and very passionate about my education. I spend a lot of time studying and I don't want to neglect that aspect of my life but I can surely make time for someone who is important to me. I take relationships seriously and don't like playing around, but some alone time is also required. I cannot cook for the life of me, but I think cleaning windows is fun. I work out every Sunday but I don't care much what you do in that department - I don't like having a lifestyle forced onto me so I won't do it either.
    Last edited: Sep 21, 2019 at 4:30 AM