Hi guys, NTish (w/adhd) woman here. I recently got into a relationship with a HFA guy.
Now, as an NT person, it’s REALLY hard for me to take things at face value, especially when it comes to dating. Things took off FAST between us. It took maybe a couple dates for him to tell me he loved me and that “I don’t need to keep looking”. We saw each other pretty much every day.
I was initially taken aback by the speed at which things were going, but then I slowly floated up to his level. He was sweet, cuddly, loving, always took accountability when he messed up… I’d often tell him how sweet he was and he’d shake his head and tell me “ just for you”. I asked him several times if he usually moves this fast with women and he told me no, and that he’d never felt this connected to someone before...
Now, I’ve had a lot of NT guys put up this front like I’m the best thing since sliced bread, then suddenly drop off the map. It’s hard to believe that most men aren't full of crap now...
I obviously know HFA’s aren’t INCAPABLE of lying or deceiving, but I do know that they tend to be way more straight forward and honest... I guess my question is… can I trust him? I know it's impossible to say for sure, but what are your thoughts...?
Now, as an NT person, it’s REALLY hard for me to take things at face value, especially when it comes to dating. Things took off FAST between us. It took maybe a couple dates for him to tell me he loved me and that “I don’t need to keep looking”. We saw each other pretty much every day.
I was initially taken aback by the speed at which things were going, but then I slowly floated up to his level. He was sweet, cuddly, loving, always took accountability when he messed up… I’d often tell him how sweet he was and he’d shake his head and tell me “ just for you”. I asked him several times if he usually moves this fast with women and he told me no, and that he’d never felt this connected to someone before...
Now, I’ve had a lot of NT guys put up this front like I’m the best thing since sliced bread, then suddenly drop off the map. It’s hard to believe that most men aren't full of crap now...
I obviously know HFA’s aren’t INCAPABLE of lying or deceiving, but I do know that they tend to be way more straight forward and honest... I guess my question is… can I trust him? I know it's impossible to say for sure, but what are your thoughts...?