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Anyone here asexual?

my speculative guess, is that there are a portion of people in the world who still instinctively, innately, want and desire, naturally want companionship from being in a relationship with another human being, but could care less if that relationship results in sex, they want to leave the sex part out, but still want what i described, said.
 
Misty Avich said:
He must feel quite lonely, if he's asexual but doesn't want to be.
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Years ago, I actually wanted to be asexual/non-sexual.
Life would have been much simpler.

Now that I am getting older, my libido is becoming weaker and weaker and I prefer it that way.
It is called andropause.

Personally speaking, I think platonic relationships are more suitable for me since I have always had a pronounced mind/body dissociation.
I see sexuality as rather animalistic where as platonic relationships are more intellectual.
For me, it is difficult to meld the two.
Hence, the mind/body dissociation.

Apparently, this "condition" is seen as something to be fixed.
I respectfully disagree. :cool:

Edit:
D'oh!
A necropost.
 
I am asexual. I find sex to be a repulsive act and as a child, when discovering how children came about, I would feel a shudder of repulsion when seeing a woman with a child or children. Even said once: I want a child, but I do not want to go through THAT to have a child.

I do not find bodies to be at all alluring. They are just functional.

I find intellectual conversation to be far more enticing. I get no sexual excitement if I am having a good conversation.
 
Suzanne said:
I find intellectual conversation to be far more enticing. I get no sexual excitement if I am having a good conversation.
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I'm the same.
If I engage in sexual activity I have to disengage my intellect and activate my more animalistic "reptilian brain".
I have to stop consciously thinking.
As I said, mind-body dissociation.

I consider the whole sexual process an evolutionary joke.
What can I say?
We are all individuals. <shrug>
 
seeing some people disclose this on facebook groups for asexual people, while i'm sure they are in the extreme minority, there are indeed a portion of people in the world who prefer or are okay and content with a sexless relationship.
 
Steelbookcollector217 said:
my speculative guess, is that there are a portion of people in the world who still instinctively, innately, want and desire, naturally want companionship from being in a relationship with another human being, but could care less if that relationship results in sex, they want to leave the sex part out, but still want what i described, said.
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Yes. I’ve had boyfriends but never had sex. I almost did with my last ex boyfriend who was my first love. Now I don’t want sex. I just don’t. I don’t want to have sex and then my heart broken. I’m getting too old for men’s childish games with sex.
 
Italianbratxoxo said:
Yes. I’ve had boyfriends but never had sex. I almost did with my last ex boyfriend who was my first love. Now I don’t want sex. I just don’t. I don’t want to have sex and then my heart broken. I’m getting too old for men’s childish games with sex.
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thats basically my last relationship, and i refuse to call her an ex for that, and yes i know i'm a broken record on this, but i stayed with her longer than i should have because, the mindset/mentality that i had, and lots of people are guilty of this, is that, we believe that its better to be in a bad/unsatisying relationship than to not be in any relationship at all.

Afraid of being alone again.
 
maycontainthunder said:
I suppose in virtually all ways I have no interest in sex. I feel zero lust. That is the asexual part of me.

In terms of wanting to be with a woman.... I wouldn't mind a companion. Someone who shares my ideas, interests and so on.

The greatest barrier faced is finding anyone who would want a completely platonic relationship with someone who is as socially inept as me!
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Finding a female friend is a lot easier for me than finding a girlfriend.

In my experience, a woman is far more willing to accept social ineptitude in a platonic friend than in a boyfriend.
 
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