Saur
Well-Known Member
Although I spent my very first new years eve outside of my family home to party for 3 days with the swimming team instead, I can't say my nights out were exactly enjoyable. I've recently broke up with my online companion and the thoughts of it are agonizing...
For 8 months she gave me the hopes that we would be able to meet someday and become a true couple... For that time she made me believe that we we're meant to be, and that despite the fifteen thousand kilometres that separated us, we were always there for each other and always help each other out and talked about things... She was the very first person in my life that I could call a "girlfriend", but then my biggest fear came true...
In our last month I noticed she was becoming more evasive in our chat... One weekend she said she was going to spend it at a "friend"'s place, but this particular guy she talked about always scared me... When she came back, first she tried to avoid the subject, but the I confronted her and she let it all out... That night out, they kissed and fell asleep together on his bed... I don't know how you people do it, but I never thought that the idea of being cheated on or lied to could be so painful...
We broke up that day but decided we would remain friends, however her chat was always about her new companion, how she loves to spend time with him, how he's so great, how they always slept together half naked... The worst was yet to come, as I was trying to get over our break-up (still am), and deep inside I still felt a connection to her... and still do...
A week past without us speaking, as she had told me she would spend Christmas time with her boyfriend's family. When she came back, she told me something that made me go through the most painful experience I've ever had in my life... She said that she lost her virginity to her boyfriend that Christmas night, and that they've had sex several through out the week since she was staying with him all the time...
With all of this... the simple thought of her gives me a chest pain so severe that I just wish to stick a knife into my chest and put an end to my misery... Simply seeing her photo makes me want to cry, almost anything that I hear or see through out my daily basis life triggers my sadness, as it reminds me of her... Ever since that day, which was also the last one we chatted since, I wake up thinking about her, I go through my day thinking about her, and I can't barely sleep because she's in my head... I can't forget her... She was my first, and what I believe will be my only one because I just can't see any other girls the same way I saw her... She was the one thing that was missing in my life, and now it's gone... I think about suicide every 5 minutes because of this, damn it... I'm trying to hold my tears as I type all of this...
She asked me to try to pick myself up and look at other girls... I've been trying, and heck, for the first time in my life, I confessed a "crush" for a girl face-to-face... I was rejected, no surprise there, but that's not the issue here... The fact is that I still feel a connection to my ex... I think I still love her with all my heart... And now I go every day in pain and agony over it, always with immense chest and head pain, always with an intense need to cry and shout... I thought that my new years out would allow me to relax and have some fun, but this barely happened as I kept thinking about her, along with all of the opportunities I missed in my life and it seemed to be to late for me to experience the most basic things in life, like being kissed for the first time...
Please forgive my extended thread, I can't control my need to let my thoughts out every once in a while... Heck, I did it face-to-face with that "crush" today, also a first time in my life, but not about this... not about "her"... I need help to get over this... I don't know just how long I can handle the pain... To everyone who's went through break-ups before, kudos to you, your hearts are made of steel and can endure anything... I just wish my own heart was that strong, but right now it's just shattered... Someone... Anyone... Please help me before I do something that will hurt the people that do care about me... What should I do?...
For 8 months she gave me the hopes that we would be able to meet someday and become a true couple... For that time she made me believe that we we're meant to be, and that despite the fifteen thousand kilometres that separated us, we were always there for each other and always help each other out and talked about things... She was the very first person in my life that I could call a "girlfriend", but then my biggest fear came true...
In our last month I noticed she was becoming more evasive in our chat... One weekend she said she was going to spend it at a "friend"'s place, but this particular guy she talked about always scared me... When she came back, first she tried to avoid the subject, but the I confronted her and she let it all out... That night out, they kissed and fell asleep together on his bed... I don't know how you people do it, but I never thought that the idea of being cheated on or lied to could be so painful...
We broke up that day but decided we would remain friends, however her chat was always about her new companion, how she loves to spend time with him, how he's so great, how they always slept together half naked... The worst was yet to come, as I was trying to get over our break-up (still am), and deep inside I still felt a connection to her... and still do...
A week past without us speaking, as she had told me she would spend Christmas time with her boyfriend's family. When she came back, she told me something that made me go through the most painful experience I've ever had in my life... She said that she lost her virginity to her boyfriend that Christmas night, and that they've had sex several through out the week since she was staying with him all the time...
With all of this... the simple thought of her gives me a chest pain so severe that I just wish to stick a knife into my chest and put an end to my misery... Simply seeing her photo makes me want to cry, almost anything that I hear or see through out my daily basis life triggers my sadness, as it reminds me of her... Ever since that day, which was also the last one we chatted since, I wake up thinking about her, I go through my day thinking about her, and I can't barely sleep because she's in my head... I can't forget her... She was my first, and what I believe will be my only one because I just can't see any other girls the same way I saw her... She was the one thing that was missing in my life, and now it's gone... I think about suicide every 5 minutes because of this, damn it... I'm trying to hold my tears as I type all of this...
She asked me to try to pick myself up and look at other girls... I've been trying, and heck, for the first time in my life, I confessed a "crush" for a girl face-to-face... I was rejected, no surprise there, but that's not the issue here... The fact is that I still feel a connection to my ex... I think I still love her with all my heart... And now I go every day in pain and agony over it, always with immense chest and head pain, always with an intense need to cry and shout... I thought that my new years out would allow me to relax and have some fun, but this barely happened as I kept thinking about her, along with all of the opportunities I missed in my life and it seemed to be to late for me to experience the most basic things in life, like being kissed for the first time...
Please forgive my extended thread, I can't control my need to let my thoughts out every once in a while... Heck, I did it face-to-face with that "crush" today, also a first time in my life, but not about this... not about "her"... I need help to get over this... I don't know just how long I can handle the pain... To everyone who's went through break-ups before, kudos to you, your hearts are made of steel and can endure anything... I just wish my own heart was that strong, but right now it's just shattered... Someone... Anyone... Please help me before I do something that will hurt the people that do care about me... What should I do?...