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Lou Laurinen

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  • My friend who I saw the other day (the one who has known me since I was 6 years old) texted me and said "You have such a beautiful soul <3"
    Shaddock
    Shaddock
    callistemon always acts charming and never stops complimenting other people lol
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    I never stop complimenting people either, I’m just surprised when people do it to me! Lol
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    It's not an act, @Shaddock, it's genuine. If I don't like something I am equally forthright. But I appreciate good things in other people and am interested in this world. :)
    There is a huge-ass spider loose in my house and I’m afraid to go to sleep. That hairy nightmare is the size of a quarter. I’m arachnophobic
    Forest Cat
    Forest Cat
    I have heard that they are wiley and spend most of their time hunting roadrunners. ;)
    Judge
    Judge
    Beep! Beep! I always used to think that was someone's Fiat!
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    That coyote comment nearly ruptured my diaphragm! Bwahahaha! Too far indeed! :)
    My dogs and my client’s Great Dane invited themselves to a cocktail party lol. My neighbors thought it was hilarious and let us stay.
    I’ve known my two best friends for a decade. That makes me happy. Some people I’m confident are always going to be in my life. I love them.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Just got a call from someone l have known 4 years. Friends are nice.
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Good to hear you two are getting some nice social experiences with people you can love! ♥

    ♥ to both of you.
    Met with my newest client tonight. An absolutely beautiful Great Dane!!! And with the sweetest and gentlest temperament. But enormous!
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Thank you, that is beautiful and so sweet!! No one has ever named a song after me before :’)
    I’m honored!
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    That's a very pleasant sound!

    One of my favourite songs ever starts with wind chimes, but it's the bass line that gets me over and over again.

    https://youtu.be/HDsw2o-DygQ
    It’s 5:30 in the morning and I need to sleep but I’m overwhelmed and crying. There’s so much evil in the world. It causes me great distress.
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Octopus hugs to you & @cornman (or if preferred a polite bow). We do a fair bit of news fasting for mental health reasons, but you've got a Ukrainian friend and that situation is just so horrible, and not the only horrible situation in the world. Gollum needs to fall into the lava lake on Mt Doom, as should Sauron actually.
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Hugs everyone <3
    Empathy is one of my greatest strengths but also my greatest weakness.
    Judge
    Judge
    Sadly, so very true. A major reason I've stopped watching the news on a regular basis.
    Walked the most adorable chubby Labrador ever, a little while ago. I’ve never seen a dog’s tail wag so much. My dogs are obsessed with her!
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Obviously dog obesity is not healthy but Labs are kind of a hefty breed. I’m not going to shame anyone for having slightly overweight dogs tho because I’m not skinny myself and I know weight loss can be an uphill battle, and my dogs are in much better shape than I am LOL
    maycontainthunder
    maycontainthunder
    Quite how we keep Dog V4 at a healthy weight I have no idea. He's hypnotic when he looks at you. Trying to resist reaching for the treat tin is futile....
    Omg. I’m in tears. Enzo scored a 200 today (perfect score in obedience.) The judge said he was blown away by how well he performed.
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    @Callistemon My best friend is the breeder of this one actually, lol… the racist lady is Chesca’s breeder (one of my female Dogos)
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    No, I meant the toady breeder with her comments on your needing to have your dogs handled by a so-called professional. Not the breeder of the dog you've done well with this particular instance! That guy doesn't need to stick anything where the sun don't shine. But Ms Toad actually already sounds as if she goes through life with a coathanger up her posterior orifice...
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    And this may indeed be a useful image for you to keep in mind for any further professional dealings you may have with her.

    Sorta like the trick for dealing with boggarts in the wardrobe. "Ridiculus!"

    JK Rowling knew what she was talking about! ;)
    I’m sick of people saying I’m exploiting my dogs. What a horrible thing to say to someone about the most precious thing they’ve ever loved.
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Tell me where to send your fee to. Lol
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Lol, there's no price for advice! ;)
    It definitely isn't inhumane to use a spray bottle! Some dogs just may be afraid of it so it only really works for confident dogs that are ok with water.
    I wouldn't advocate for any of the more aversive/negative methods of training dogs. Using inhumane tactics to train dogs increases the risk of fear-based aggression (and is just mean! :( )
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Thank you. I didn't know what to do but l needed to train this cute little female dog. She was so smart.
    I hate PTSD. I wish I could forget every bad thing that ever happened to me. But my brain likes to replay them when I’m trying to sleep. >:[
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    So for many people, consciously re-processing those memories is key to getting the subconscious to stop re-playing that stuff, at least to the extent it's keeping us awake at night. Personally I came to think of it as being a safe support person for the little girl I had been, and actually processing with her the stuff she was throwing at me night after night.
    Stuttermabolur
    Stuttermabolur
    @callistermon What you mention is pretty much exactly how PTSD played out for my ex. She had violent and highly symbolic dreams most nights when we were together, then less than a year after we broke up something clicked and she started remembering (though she didn't want to). This had a really big negative effect on her, and I was quite worried, though she is luckily doing better now.
    Stuttermabolur
    Stuttermabolur
    Even though it is very difficult for her, she can at least work on processing what happened which was quite impossible for her while the memories were buried. I wish all of you the greatest strength and luck in handling your past. I know second hand that it requires an enormous amount of courage and resilience. I have the deepest respect for anyone in that situation.
    Enzo’s new favorite phrase is “stinky cheese.” He now knows exactly what I mean when I say it. It’s just white cheese but boy does it stink!
    Loren
    Loren
    Aw, very sweet. : )

    I've had a good day, thank you, and hope you did, too, in spite of your injuries. I hope they heal very soon!
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Hi, everyone! I'm sure those bandages look quite fetching, @crewlucaa_! ;) I hope you all have a good evening. Gorgeous autumn day here and lots of gardening to do!
    maycontainthunder
    maycontainthunder
    Dog V1 learnt that the word 'Quick' meant that there were sheep in the fields we were passing. This was in the car & not when we were out walking.
    I just groomed a dog and I have bite marks on my neck, arm and hands from him attacking me. I finally got a muzzle on him. Sigh
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Oh boy. I love dogs but bites are a bit too much for me.
    maycontainthunder
    maycontainthunder
    I've been bitten a few times but 99% of the time it was me stepping over a 'boundary'. Dog V4 gets snappy when I blow raspberries on him or if he doesn't want his ears cleaned.
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Funnily, my husband doesn't like raspberries either and might bite me if I persisted, which would be a rude thing for me to do anyway. ;)
    Someone told me my brain is always going to be permanently 14 years old. I don’t see how finding curiosity and wonder in everything is bad…
    Slim Jim
    Slim Jim
    "Ye cannot enter the kingdom lest ye be like a spoiled 14 year old brat. "

    Something like that...Right?
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    I am 14 years old. I refuse to play by ridiculous rules of the male population where l live. I hide alot in this state. Married men think l should be at their beck and call. Their wives should treat them like dogs and leash them. Joking.
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Does that someone have a crystal ball, Luca? Tell them about Dunning-Kruger effect, since they're probably an example of it. It's absence of curiosity that's the killer (of the world and of people, including their own lives) - not the presence of it.
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