• Feeling isolated? You're not alone.

    Join 20,000+ people who understand exactly how your day went. Whether you're newly diagnosed, self-identified, or supporting someone you love – this is a space where you don't have to explain yourself.

    Join the Conversation → It's free, anonymous, and supportive.

    As a member, you'll get:

    • A community that actually gets it – no judgment, no explanations needed
    • Private forums for sensitive topics (hidden from search engines)
    • Real-time chat with others who share your experiences
    • Your own blog to document your journey

    You've found your people. Create your free account

Lou Laurinen

Lou Laurinen

V.I.P Member
Well-Known Member 31
Joined
Messages
5,074
Reactions
27,996
Points
238

Profile posts Latest activity Postings About

  • Lou Laurinen
    I hate PTSD. I wish I could forget every bad thing that ever happened to me. But my brain likes to replay them when I’m trying to sleep. >:[
    View previous comments…
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    So for many people, consciously re-processing those memories is key to getting the subconscious to stop re-playing that stuff, at least to the extent it's keeping us awake at night. Personally I came to think of it as being a safe support person for the little girl I had been, and actually processing with her the stuff she was throwing at me night after night.
    Stuttermabolur
    Stuttermabolur
    @callistermon What you mention is pretty much exactly how PTSD played out for my ex. She had violent and highly symbolic dreams most nights when we were together, then less than a year after we broke up something clicked and she started remembering (though she didn't want to). This had a really big negative effect on her, and I was quite worried, though she is luckily doing better now.
    Stuttermabolur
    Stuttermabolur
    Even though it is very difficult for her, she can at least work on processing what happened which was quite impossible for her while the memories were buried. I wish all of you the greatest strength and luck in handling your past. I know second hand that it requires an enormous amount of courage and resilience. I have the deepest respect for anyone in that situation.
    Lou Laurinen
    Enzo’s new favorite phrase is “stinky cheese.” He now knows exactly what I mean when I say it. It’s just white cheese but boy does it stink!
    View previous comments…
    Loren
    Loren
    Aw, very sweet. : )

    I've had a good day, thank you, and hope you did, too, in spite of your injuries. I hope they heal very soon!
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Hi, everyone! I'm sure those bandages look quite fetching, @crewlucaa_! ;) I hope you all have a good evening. Gorgeous autumn day here and lots of gardening to do!
    maycontainthunder
    maycontainthunder
    Dog V1 learnt that the word 'Quick' meant that there were sheep in the fields we were passing. This was in the car & not when we were out walking.
    Lou Laurinen
    I just groomed a dog and I have bite marks on my neck, arm and hands from him attacking me. I finally got a muzzle on him. Sigh
    View previous comments…
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    Oh boy. I love dogs but bites are a bit too much for me.
    maycontainthunder
    maycontainthunder
    I've been bitten a few times but 99% of the time it was me stepping over a 'boundary'. Dog V4 gets snappy when I blow raspberries on him or if he doesn't want his ears cleaned.
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Funnily, my husband doesn't like raspberries either and might bite me if I persisted, which would be a rude thing for me to do anyway. ;)
    Lou Laurinen
    Someone told me my brain is always going to be permanently 14 years old. I don’t see how finding curiosity and wonder in everything is bad…
    View previous comments…
    Slim Jim
    Slim Jim
    "Ye cannot enter the kingdom lest ye be like a spoiled 14 year old brat. "

    Something like that...Right?
    Aspychata
    Aspychata
    I am 14 years old. I refuse to play by ridiculous rules of the male population where l live. I hide alot in this state. Married men think l should be at their beck and call. Their wives should treat them like dogs and leash them. Joking.
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Does that someone have a crystal ball, Luca? Tell them about Dunning-Kruger effect, since they're probably an example of it. It's absence of curiosity that's the killer (of the world and of people, including their own lives) - not the presence of it.
    Lou Laurinen
    Summer has arrived early. It’s usually still cold here right now. I’m not complaining! I love summer. I’d be better off somewhere tropical.
    View previous comments…
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    South America and Australia have climates I could probably deal with.
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Spain and Portugal maybe too. I have traveled to a lot of places that were warm, but I also like some places that are unfortunately FREEZING! So I couldn’t live in those places. We have a summer home in Maine but Maine year-round would be unbearable.
    maycontainthunder
    maycontainthunder
    New Zealand would be my aim if I had the money.
    Lou Laurinen
    Hex and Enzo saw a dog they like and refused to move. So I had to “transport” them (97lbs and 65lbs.) Enzo can be picked up. Hex not so much
    Lou Laurinen
    The full moon honestly looks really creepy tonight. I don’t like it here at night regardless.
    Metalhead
    Metalhead
    Come over to my place and watch Underworld to see werewolves being killed by vampires.
    W
    Wolfnox
    Such a sad movie. If only they could live among Smurfs maybe there would be peace.
    W
    Wolfnox
    Send a howl your way crewlucaa. It's a good night one.
    Lou Laurinen
    Things went pretty well today. Even got featured on a Facebook page for one of the Kennel Clubs!
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Even that is not enough to make me want to touch Facebook ever again tho lol
    cornman
    cornman
    true, i dislike facebook as well. I dont know how my dad uses it in a healthy manner but whatever, i still wont touch it either.
    Lou Laurinen
    Taking some time away from the forums today and focusing on my job, and then getting A LOT of sleep has helped. Thanks everyone for helping.
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    I'm not that open about my mental health struggled but it's been really hard, especially with what I'm dealing with physically too. Sometimes I come on here and see things that are really triggering.
    I will try to take more intermittent breaks and focus more on myself and things in my daily life that are more important than sitting up on my computer all night.
    Thanks @tree for helping to make this a safe place too.
    Bolletje
    Bolletje
    I hope your break from the forums is refreshing for you. Sometimes the forums are very helpful for mental health, but every now and then, it hurts. Hope you'll feel better soon :)
    Lou Laurinen
    Can someone help me find irl autism resources please? This forum is becoming detrimental to my mental health but I can't cut off support. :(
    View previous comments…
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Omg these photos are amazing!!! The scarecrow one had me dying LMAO
    We both definitely seem to have an interest in documenting our lives! :) That's a good thing!
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Always happy to provide some sources of de-stressing endorphins! :) That was all before we built the house. We're going, "OMG, we looked ten years younger!" because we were ten years younger... :)
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    I know the feeling! It's scary! I was a freshman in college 10 years ago.
    You and Brett look very happy :) You're definitely soul mates!
    Lou Laurinen
    Does anyone know how to deal with fluffy/poofy hair? I’m growing my hair out and it’s a disaster. Made worse by PCOS hormone cycle weirdness
    View previous comments…
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Is it wavy? Brett looks like a puffball if he tries to brush his hair. Wavy hair ought not be brushed if you can avoid it. I have wavy hair and detangle it with conditioner and a wide-spaced comb in the shower. Then leave-in conditioner after towel-drying. Good for three days, just untangle any sleep tangles. More leave-in conditioner if needed.
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    I never brush it. Finger-style. Mine is a graduated bob cut somewhere between chin and shoulder and I dry it upside down near a heater (fan heater, wood heater) or air dry it - never blow dry. Except my fringe, for going out somewhere dressy.
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    It’s actually pretty straight, although I sometimes use wavy wigs and extensions. It’s just very, very bushy. Lol. I don’t blow dry mine either but idk if it’d help or not if I did
    Lou Laurinen
    Not enough sleep and I have to work today and tomorrow, and have therapy and a medical appointment today. But I admit this is my own fault!
    Lou Laurinen
    My friend said that “Amazing World of Gumball” show would be psychological horror if you watched it while on acid. Lol
    View previous comments…
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Well, I think that's why I avoided all that stuff - not a good mix with PTSD. However, who knows if I will hit debauchery in old age sometime! ;)

    But apparently I already have a mind that regularly puts itself on mushrooms. ;P Without actual mushrooms!
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    I have acid/shroom dreams too without having ever done anything lol. I had a dream the other day that one of my friends was a ghost haunting my house, and he came out of a vase. Or maybe it was an urn then? :p
    Callistemon
    Callistemon
    Think of the money we save getting our trips naturally! And all the CDs we can buy with that - or stuff for the animals...
    Lou Laurinen
    Starting to feel kind of anxious and uncomfortable about posting on here. Just getting weird vibes lately.
    View previous comments…
    tree
    tree
    You'll probably feel better, when you feel better. Wasn't it just this morning before sun up that you were "having crippling medical anxiety." And hadn't slept in almost 24 hours?
    Slim Jim
    Slim Jim
    We are all a little broken inside. Sometimes it is hard to stay on top of things. Life becomes full of stress and it gets difficult.
    Lou Laurinen
    Lou Laurinen
    Yes, @tree . My anxiety has been at an all-time high :( I did get some sleep today though!
    Thanks Jim, you’re right :)
  • Loading…
  • Loading…
  • Loading…
Top Bottom