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So then Monday came around and I kept her off school, if i'd have sent her in no doubt she would have had a meltdown, plus her soiling had become worse, it was every 30 mins now. I called the doctor to check how high a dose she can have of movicol with her kidney problems and other medication. she was allowed up to 8 satchets but 4 should be more then enough.
All day we had constant toilet trips, changing underwear, crying, etc, I gave her more movicol, told her she could get nay toy she wanted if she could just get it out(because part of the problem is psychological...she becomes afraid of the pain when she hasn't been for a few days). It was so bad that she couldn't even sit down she had to lay on her side she was so sore. Eventually after alot of trying she managed to get it out, then she burst into tears again and was making her noise (a particular noise she makes when she's having a meltdown). After she calmed down we went to the shops and got her the toy she wanted, everything was fine, Monday night was okay, usual getting up to tell us things etc but she was okay.
Then came Tuesday....we had already organized having her friend over (I'll call her Lisa, not her real name but quick to type) and my daughter was quite excited. So she went to school and came home with her friend, they always argue over something but my daughter was terrible yesterday. First they got her monster high dolls out, Lisa wanted to swap some of the clothes over...most kids would be fine with this but no my daughter 'kicked off' came storming out and was frantic almost crying saying that Lisa was wrecking everything and destroying her dolls. I had to explain to her that it was not a major problem, to calm down I would sort it out, so I told Lisa not to change the dolls clothes just play with them as they are. 5 minutes later I hear them shouting at each other so I went into her room, Lisa was sulking o the bed and my daughter was making her angry noise. The problem? my daughter wanted to play dolls but Lisa wanted to play on the wii, so i said okay we'll play with the dolls now, then after tea you can play on the wii...Lisa groaned and said it wasn't fair, that MD(my daughter) had picked to play dolls so it was her turn to pick. So I asked if that was true MD nodded, so i asked Lisa to pick something other then the wii as tea was almost ready and by the time I set it up it would be tea time. Lisa picked snakes and ladders, MD made a huge grunty noise and stormed off, I went after her and got a mouth full of abuse because I was being unfair on her, that Lisa was picking 2 things to do, then she started saying some really awful things about Lisa and was on the verge of tears. So i told her to sit in the front room and calm down, she stormed off, my husband went after her. I played with Lisa until MD had calmed down, she came back in just as we finished snakes and ladders and Lisa was getting guess who out. MD said it was her turn to pick, so i said look we'll just quickly play guess who and then you can pick after tea, she sat down and began to play. After a few minutes we realised that some of the cards had gotten mixed up(there are 2 of everyone) and MD had doubles of some which Lisa pointed out, cue a big rage of "your lying I didn't do anything wrong, I hate you your always saying stuff like this" so i told her to stop and calm down, it was nobody's fault the cards just got mixed up and i'd sort them out. We had a few more little problems but nothing major.
Then we had the huge row over who was sitting where for tea, solved with turn taking, they would swap seats for dessert. Then after tea we had more arguements over what to play, MD went off in a strop so I ended up playing on the wii with Lisa.
Once Lisa went home I sat MD down and told her she can't act like that with her friends or they won't want to be friends anymore. She disagreed and thought Lisa was the problem and she'd done nothing wrong. When I said about her saying nasty things about Lisa, she said that dind't matter because Lisa didn't hear. We don't know that though MD was swearing and calling Lisa allsorts (like saying "I f**king hate Lisa, she's a stupid F**k and I never want her here again" at the top of her voice) when Lisa was in the next room.
Fast forward to bedtime and we have a meltdown, she doesn't know what's wrong, an hour later and i find out she's worrying about her yoga lesson on Friday because the teacher is really mean to her. Plus she got 'dizzy' at school again and wasn't allowed to sit out, so yesterday's outpouring of hatred and snapping so easily was all because she'd been so overwhelmed at school.
So I've told her no more friends over for a while until she can control her rage a bit more and / or the mental health team can help her because she's just going to push all of her friends away when she doesn't mean to she just needs to let off steam from the school day.
Phew...what a week it's been!
So then Monday came around and I kept her off school, if i'd have sent her in no doubt she would have had a meltdown, plus her soiling had become worse, it was every 30 mins now. I called the doctor to check how high a dose she can have of movicol with her kidney problems and other medication. she was allowed up to 8 satchets but 4 should be more then enough.
All day we had constant toilet trips, changing underwear, crying, etc, I gave her more movicol, told her she could get nay toy she wanted if she could just get it out(because part of the problem is psychological...she becomes afraid of the pain when she hasn't been for a few days). It was so bad that she couldn't even sit down she had to lay on her side she was so sore. Eventually after alot of trying she managed to get it out, then she burst into tears again and was making her noise (a particular noise she makes when she's having a meltdown). After she calmed down we went to the shops and got her the toy she wanted, everything was fine, Monday night was okay, usual getting up to tell us things etc but she was okay.
Then came Tuesday....we had already organized having her friend over (I'll call her Lisa, not her real name but quick to type) and my daughter was quite excited. So she went to school and came home with her friend, they always argue over something but my daughter was terrible yesterday. First they got her monster high dolls out, Lisa wanted to swap some of the clothes over...most kids would be fine with this but no my daughter 'kicked off' came storming out and was frantic almost crying saying that Lisa was wrecking everything and destroying her dolls. I had to explain to her that it was not a major problem, to calm down I would sort it out, so I told Lisa not to change the dolls clothes just play with them as they are. 5 minutes later I hear them shouting at each other so I went into her room, Lisa was sulking o the bed and my daughter was making her angry noise. The problem? my daughter wanted to play dolls but Lisa wanted to play on the wii, so i said okay we'll play with the dolls now, then after tea you can play on the wii...Lisa groaned and said it wasn't fair, that MD(my daughter) had picked to play dolls so it was her turn to pick. So I asked if that was true MD nodded, so i asked Lisa to pick something other then the wii as tea was almost ready and by the time I set it up it would be tea time. Lisa picked snakes and ladders, MD made a huge grunty noise and stormed off, I went after her and got a mouth full of abuse because I was being unfair on her, that Lisa was picking 2 things to do, then she started saying some really awful things about Lisa and was on the verge of tears. So i told her to sit in the front room and calm down, she stormed off, my husband went after her. I played with Lisa until MD had calmed down, she came back in just as we finished snakes and ladders and Lisa was getting guess who out. MD said it was her turn to pick, so i said look we'll just quickly play guess who and then you can pick after tea, she sat down and began to play. After a few minutes we realised that some of the cards had gotten mixed up(there are 2 of everyone) and MD had doubles of some which Lisa pointed out, cue a big rage of "your lying I didn't do anything wrong, I hate you your always saying stuff like this" so i told her to stop and calm down, it was nobody's fault the cards just got mixed up and i'd sort them out. We had a few more little problems but nothing major.
Then we had the huge row over who was sitting where for tea, solved with turn taking, they would swap seats for dessert. Then after tea we had more arguements over what to play, MD went off in a strop so I ended up playing on the wii with Lisa.
Once Lisa went home I sat MD down and told her she can't act like that with her friends or they won't want to be friends anymore. She disagreed and thought Lisa was the problem and she'd done nothing wrong. When I said about her saying nasty things about Lisa, she said that dind't matter because Lisa didn't hear. We don't know that though MD was swearing and calling Lisa allsorts (like saying "I f**king hate Lisa, she's a stupid F**k and I never want her here again" at the top of her voice) when Lisa was in the next room.
Fast forward to bedtime and we have a meltdown, she doesn't know what's wrong, an hour later and i find out she's worrying about her yoga lesson on Friday because the teacher is really mean to her. Plus she got 'dizzy' at school again and wasn't allowed to sit out, so yesterday's outpouring of hatred and snapping so easily was all because she'd been so overwhelmed at school.
So I've told her no more friends over for a while until she can control her rage a bit more and / or the mental health team can help her because she's just going to push all of her friends away when she doesn't mean to she just needs to let off steam from the school day.
Phew...what a week it's been!
