1. You have a right to make your wants known to others.
2. You deny your own importance when you do not ask for what you want.
3. Making a request assertively does not guarantee that you will get what you want, but it does open the way for more equal negotiation with others.
4. Indirect ways of asking for what you want, such as complaints or questions, may not be understood. Be as specific as you can.
5. Don't expect someone to read your mind and guess your needs or wants.
6. When making a request choose an appropriate time, use "I" statements, and demonstrate assertive body language.
7. We can help others trust that we are requesting, not demanding, by indicating that we would only want the person to comply if he or she can do so willingly.
8. When making a request, allow others to take responsibility for their own response to your request.
9. Directly asking for what you want can become a habit and is a way of affirming your needs and wants.
10. Asking for what you want is a skill that can be learned.
