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1. You have a right to make your wants known to others.
2. You deny your own importance when you do not ask for what you want.
3. Making a request assertively does not guarantee that you will get what you want, but it does open the way for more equal negotiation with others.
4. Indirect...
This is from "Speaking your mind in 101 difficult situations" by Don Gabor.
DO remain persistent even though you may feel like giving in.
DON'T respond immediately. Take a deep breath and count to ten.
DO listen for areas of agreement.
DON'T fight or get caught up in arguing over details...
Negative assertion is acceptance of the fact that an error has been made by you and that you acknowledge it without having to apologize or feel guilty.
Use negative assertion when you are being criticized for making a mistake that without doubt is 100% error and you are responsible for...
Negative Inquiry
Negative inquiry is active prompting of criticism in order to exhaust unproductive criticism enabling you to clarify the real issue.
Use it when you are being criticized for something which is not the real issue. This skill helps you uncover and deal with the hidden...
Fogging
Fogging is calmly admitting to your critic that there may be some truth in what he/she says while maintaining your right to be your own judge of what you say, do and believe.
Use fogging when someone is attempting to manipulate you through criticism and is using unfair tactics...
Refusing a Request - The Broken Record Technique
The broken record technique is calmly repeating a short simple statement over and over until the other person gets the message.
Use this when someone is trying to manipulate you by:
1. Asking off-topic questions
2. Attempting to provoke...
I was given quite a lot of information on healthy communication techniques during my last stay in Ottawa's EDP. I'm happy to share these with you, and I hope you find some of them useful.
Refusing Requests
You have a right to say "No".
Some people find it exceedingly difficult to say...
Good morning my fellow insomniacs. It's little past 5:00am, and I've been awake for more than an hour. I wouldn't mind so much, but I can't really do anything in case I make too much noise and disturb my neighbours. I used to do housework or bake when I had my house. I really miss that feeling...
Do you ever get those days where you haven't the energy to do anything? I know I should be doing my dishes, straightening up my apartment, going to the store and a whole bunch of other things. Instead, I'm watching online movies and hanging out here. Now, don't get me wrong, I like hanging out...
I woke up before daybreak this morning feeling pretty exhausted. I just didn't want to face my day. So, I made a coffee, checked my email and logged in to aspiescentral. This online community is so important. I feel like I belong for the first time in a very long time. Some of the posts make me...