Hi,
I’m new to this forum, and new to posting about anything. Looking for support or advice from anyone that may have more experience in autism.
I have a son, who I love more than anything, he has always been “different” (didn’t care about having friends, always seemed to exaggerate his emotions, behavioural issues at school. Always saying he was bored and didn’t want to be there, making excuses or pretending his sick etc to leave).
He is VERY intelligent which we have heard his whole life, adults are shocked at the conversations he has and the knowledge he has in a variety of topics. If I wrote everything about him I would have to write a novel.
We recently brought him to a psychologist to deal with some behavioural issues we have had from a recent move, after 25 minutes of talking with him she brought me in to tell me her opinion is he is neuro divergent and on the spectrum. This is something I’ve suspected since he was very young, but because he was high functioning and not knowing much about autism I wasn’t sure.
He is not diagnosed and it’s not confirmed however the more I research it does make sense.
My struggle right now is even if he is autistic we have built routines and have pushed him outside his comfort zone and he has excelled and met many challenges that I’m sure we’re not easy for him. However, in the counselling session she told me (with him in the room) that he just needs acceptance, video games are good for him and that if he doesn’t want to go to school maybe he can do half days or online schooling.
Now I do agree on the acceptance and we will stop putting pressure to make friends and try to make things less stressful for him. However he is a master at loopholes and finding ways to do what he wants. Now that he has heard this he is trying to get out of school everyday, he is bragging about how easy school is (this is not a new thing he’s said over the years) and how he doesn’t need to do all the boring stuff when he can get his work done in 5 minutes and everyone else takes 50 minutes.
I’m not sure what I can do at this time, I’m having a meeting with the school next week, but without a diagnosis I’m not sure what they can offer. I also don’t want to backtrack and erase all the work we have done in these 12 years.
I guess the biggest thing is, I just don’t know. I don’t know what the right approach is. I know us moving to a new town/school is what’s caused a lot more of this to surface, and although I feel the move will be great in the long run, starting a new job, in a new place and trying to figure this out for him has been a challenge.
I’m unsure what supports are available and how to navigate these meetings with his feelings in mind but also trying to still continue what we have worked so hard to build.
I’m new to this forum, and new to posting about anything. Looking for support or advice from anyone that may have more experience in autism.
I have a son, who I love more than anything, he has always been “different” (didn’t care about having friends, always seemed to exaggerate his emotions, behavioural issues at school. Always saying he was bored and didn’t want to be there, making excuses or pretending his sick etc to leave).
He is VERY intelligent which we have heard his whole life, adults are shocked at the conversations he has and the knowledge he has in a variety of topics. If I wrote everything about him I would have to write a novel.
We recently brought him to a psychologist to deal with some behavioural issues we have had from a recent move, after 25 minutes of talking with him she brought me in to tell me her opinion is he is neuro divergent and on the spectrum. This is something I’ve suspected since he was very young, but because he was high functioning and not knowing much about autism I wasn’t sure.
He is not diagnosed and it’s not confirmed however the more I research it does make sense.
My struggle right now is even if he is autistic we have built routines and have pushed him outside his comfort zone and he has excelled and met many challenges that I’m sure we’re not easy for him. However, in the counselling session she told me (with him in the room) that he just needs acceptance, video games are good for him and that if he doesn’t want to go to school maybe he can do half days or online schooling.
Now I do agree on the acceptance and we will stop putting pressure to make friends and try to make things less stressful for him. However he is a master at loopholes and finding ways to do what he wants. Now that he has heard this he is trying to get out of school everyday, he is bragging about how easy school is (this is not a new thing he’s said over the years) and how he doesn’t need to do all the boring stuff when he can get his work done in 5 minutes and everyone else takes 50 minutes.
I’m not sure what I can do at this time, I’m having a meeting with the school next week, but without a diagnosis I’m not sure what they can offer. I also don’t want to backtrack and erase all the work we have done in these 12 years.
I guess the biggest thing is, I just don’t know. I don’t know what the right approach is. I know us moving to a new town/school is what’s caused a lot more of this to surface, and although I feel the move will be great in the long run, starting a new job, in a new place and trying to figure this out for him has been a challenge.
I’m unsure what supports are available and how to navigate these meetings with his feelings in mind but also trying to still continue what we have worked so hard to build.
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