sixshot
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I have been with this girl I am 28 she is 30.. we have been together for about 4 months now. And things went quick.. this doesnt bother me.
But we have had some serious fights leading to almost breaking up. But the good times we have together are amazing.
I fell like I am the problem because I feel like I am always worrying that she is thinking bad things about me. It seems like she complains a lot about things I do. The way I talk, the tone I use and she says I talk really loud and aggressively.
When we have a fight I push her and push her till I am satisfied that she is happy and not going to leave me..this in itself is a problem as shes told me it makes her feel cornered. Like I am in her face and this worries her.
I complain to her that she doesnt like to touch me much, i.e. hold hands, cuddle. And I am always the one initiating sex. I have tried to talk to her about this but she gets angry at me when ever I try to talk about things that are bothering me.
I really want things to work out with her because she makes me really happy most of the time. But I am sick of my brain worrying all the time.
We just had a massive fight last night because I found out she messaged her ex bf behind my back...she said its because his dad just found out he has cancer. This really bothers me because she has a tone of photos of her and her exs on Facebook, she is still friends on Facebook with a few of her exs. AND 2 months ago she went and met up with her **** buddy (guy before she met me) behind my back and didnt tell me, I found out because I saw a message in her phone and dove deeper and found out she was flirting with him in texts and she went and met up with him after work one night. She assures me nothing happened. She said she did it because we were fighting and she wanted to go see how she would feel or something like that. That really upset me and I asked her "what would you do if I did that to you" and she said she would have broken up with me.
I stayed with her because I really like her a lot. I see a future with her. But it seems she isnt very sympathetic or understanding to my aspergers. We had a huge fight once because I didnt want to eat at this vegan place because I couldnt see anything I would eat and she went off at me for not wanting to try new things.. I tried to explain to her that I am sensitive to textures and taste, that I know what I like and don't like.
She seems to always be upset with me and I all I want to do is make her happy and be happy with me.
I know I am the problem, I know I must be so difficult to be with. I just want her to be understanding.
She is going to bali for a friends wedding and this ex she texted last night will be there. I can't stop worrying and feeling really upset that shes done something wrong (she said she doesnt think she did anything wrong) and that she never tries to reassure me or make me feel better.
Please help, I need some advice from people who understand the way my brain functions. It is really bothering me. I want to be able to be better and make her happy.
But we have had some serious fights leading to almost breaking up. But the good times we have together are amazing.
I fell like I am the problem because I feel like I am always worrying that she is thinking bad things about me. It seems like she complains a lot about things I do. The way I talk, the tone I use and she says I talk really loud and aggressively.
When we have a fight I push her and push her till I am satisfied that she is happy and not going to leave me..this in itself is a problem as shes told me it makes her feel cornered. Like I am in her face and this worries her.
I complain to her that she doesnt like to touch me much, i.e. hold hands, cuddle. And I am always the one initiating sex. I have tried to talk to her about this but she gets angry at me when ever I try to talk about things that are bothering me.
I really want things to work out with her because she makes me really happy most of the time. But I am sick of my brain worrying all the time.
We just had a massive fight last night because I found out she messaged her ex bf behind my back...she said its because his dad just found out he has cancer. This really bothers me because she has a tone of photos of her and her exs on Facebook, she is still friends on Facebook with a few of her exs. AND 2 months ago she went and met up with her **** buddy (guy before she met me) behind my back and didnt tell me, I found out because I saw a message in her phone and dove deeper and found out she was flirting with him in texts and she went and met up with him after work one night. She assures me nothing happened. She said she did it because we were fighting and she wanted to go see how she would feel or something like that. That really upset me and I asked her "what would you do if I did that to you" and she said she would have broken up with me.
I stayed with her because I really like her a lot. I see a future with her. But it seems she isnt very sympathetic or understanding to my aspergers. We had a huge fight once because I didnt want to eat at this vegan place because I couldnt see anything I would eat and she went off at me for not wanting to try new things.. I tried to explain to her that I am sensitive to textures and taste, that I know what I like and don't like.
She seems to always be upset with me and I all I want to do is make her happy and be happy with me.
I know I am the problem, I know I must be so difficult to be with. I just want her to be understanding.
She is going to bali for a friends wedding and this ex she texted last night will be there. I can't stop worrying and feeling really upset that shes done something wrong (she said she doesnt think she did anything wrong) and that she never tries to reassure me or make me feel better.
Please help, I need some advice from people who understand the way my brain functions. It is really bothering me. I want to be able to be better and make her happy.