Dr. Smart
Well-Known Member
I've seen some people with ASD state that they tend to shy away from conversations or social situations and only talk when necessary.
I however never shut up! Okay I am not incapable of keeping quiet or wraping up my point, but its difficult once I've started talking to get my point across without wrapping around the conversation into a pretzel.
For me I want my point to get across even if what I'm talking about is trivial. But once i start explaning it, I realize that there's context missing and explain the context, and than if it seems like someone misunderstood even part of what I said I'll try to reword it and typically it just comes out like I'm repeating myself. Many times I'll lose the person I'm talking to and they'll wait for a pause and assume I'm finished talking when i havent technically even got to the point I was making.
Being misunderstood makes me anxious and that anxiety pushes me into needlesly complicating a discussion and than being misunderstood which makes me even more anxious... Especially when the topic is a disagreement and I've just made myself look like an idiot...
Anyone else have issues like this? Its probably one of the most infuriating things about myself, and its a real annnoyance for a lot of people I try to form interactions with.
I however never shut up! Okay I am not incapable of keeping quiet or wraping up my point, but its difficult once I've started talking to get my point across without wrapping around the conversation into a pretzel.
For me I want my point to get across even if what I'm talking about is trivial. But once i start explaning it, I realize that there's context missing and explain the context, and than if it seems like someone misunderstood even part of what I said I'll try to reword it and typically it just comes out like I'm repeating myself. Many times I'll lose the person I'm talking to and they'll wait for a pause and assume I'm finished talking when i havent technically even got to the point I was making.
Being misunderstood makes me anxious and that anxiety pushes me into needlesly complicating a discussion and than being misunderstood which makes me even more anxious... Especially when the topic is a disagreement and I've just made myself look like an idiot...
Anyone else have issues like this? Its probably one of the most infuriating things about myself, and its a real annnoyance for a lot of people I try to form interactions with.