Sudden breakup would love some insight

[Dominique]

Hi all! I came to this forum because I really want to try to understand something and see if I’m just missing something.


So my Aspie boyfriend of 1 month broke up with me after our first fight! He ghosted me all day then by the end of the night broke up up with me saying it was because I cheated on him!

this was 100% not true! We met on a dating app and because I was mad I hadn’t heard from him I downloaded that dating app again to see if he was still on there. An hour after I downloaded the app he’s texting me breaking up with me telling me his friend saw me on this app and he is assuming i’d been on there the whole length of our relationship.

now me and my Aspie boyfriend fell hard and quickly for each other he told me he loves me on our second date! Nonetheless I felt the same not too much longer. I’m heartbroken that our perfect relationship ended so quickly. He blocked me and I tried everything to get him back.

ive pleaded my case and professed my love many times but he is stuck on the idea that he believes is true.

Should I continue to peruse my now ex boyfriend or do I need to just let him go since he is not willing to hear me out over false pretenses?

Any advice would be appreciated thank you

 

[Thinx]

Hi and welcome. So, did you use the app while his friend was there? Or how did the friend know, if not? I think it sounds like there's upset on both sides, he'll probably come around if he's fond of you. Give it a bit of time.

 

[Dominique]

Hi and welcome. So, did you use the app while his friend was there? Or how did the friend know, if not? I think it sounds like there's upset on both sides, he'll probably come around if he's fond of you. Give it a bit of time.

Thank you for your reply! I wasn’t active on the app but I uploaded a new picture and his friend sent my boyfriend my profile like “why is your girlfriend on here” and my boyfriend was like yea why does she have new pics up unbeknownst to them I had just activated the app an hour prior to him seeing me on that site

 

[Thinx]

I see. Well, it's understandable he got upset, especially as things were already difficult between you, and I guess you can only explain, and wait to see how he reacts. It's a misunderstanding, but if he doesn't come around from it, he's maybe not as interested as you first thought. Whether or not hes Aspie, this would imply he may find trust hard, and/ or lacks the motivation to sustain the relationship through an upset.

 

[Vindicator Phoenix]

I wish I were in the mood to provide insight; I had a rough day (too much noise, at home).

I do wish to say that you don't deserve to be mistreated, Dominique. You're better than that.

With love,
Arielle

 

[Dominique]

I wish I were in the mood to provide insight; I had a rough day (too much noise, at home).

I do wish to say that you don't deserve to be mistreated, Dominique. You're better than that.

With love,
Arielle

thank you Arielle, I hope your day turns around!

 

[Tom]

It's hard to say, because although autistics do share some symptoms/tendencies we are still so very different and don't really know what's going on in one another's mind. What was the fight about?

 

[Dominique]

It's hard to say, because although autistics do share some symptoms/tendencies we are still so very different and don't really know what's going on in one another's mind. What was the fight about?

because our relationship was new I wanted to focus on getting to know each other more and stop all sexual aspects but he felt I was making a big deal about it

 

[Tom]

Then I would say he was not deeply committed, not really in love.