Still struggling, still feeling down

[Sherlock77]

After waiting almost 30 minutes for a bus after work... When I'm so used to driving home from work, and I could get there in that 30 minutes... Learned that there is probably a better bus route to take... Etc...

I did buy a monthly bus pass, first time ever, so I'm not counting bus tickets and seeing the money add up far too quick, so I feel more freedom like taking a bus/train more than twice a day

But it's still a struggle, I'm almost feeling like a loser because I have to take the bus, maybe too strong of a word but it does ultimately control how far afield I can go, in particular out of town excursions that I enjoy

But I am trying to deal with this better, and there will be an end to this but it's still a few weeks away, in the meantime I feel like I'm barely hanging on emotionally because my entire life has been turned upside down

Yet I also know lots of friends who have never owned a car, and the bus/public transport is their only way of getting around, no matter how inconvenient it is, or at least seems like to me right now...

 

[velociraptor]

Condolences, man. Having your freedom curtailed in any manner is less than auspicious. How much longer until your chariot is back in service?

 

[Sherlock77]

Condolences, man. Having your freedom curtailed in any manner is less than auspicious. How much longer until your chariot is back in service?

A few weeks

 

[Suzanne]

Ah someone who gets it!

I feel a loser because of not having a licence and worse still, live in a country, where a licence really is practical and have extreme agoraphobia, so cannot take public transport.

Thankfully, due to internet, I have a sense of control.

It is a truly demoralising experience for me.

 

[WhitewaterWoman]

Sorry about your car and the rotten feelings that go with losing it, even temporarily. What comes to me is being embarrassed. Like I want to explain that I’m really not that whatever it is, that I’ve been reduced to taking the bus.

And of course I realize many people take the bus for many different reasons, not all have to do with reduced circumstances.

I remind myself that feelings are often irrational and get on with my day.

I’m glad you’ll get your car, and independence, back soon.

 

[Sherlock77]

Ah someone who gets it!

I feel a loser because of not having a licence and worse still, live in a country, where a licence really is practical and have extreme agoraphobia, so cannot take public transport.

Thankfully, due to internet, I have a sense of control.

It is a truly demoralising experience for me.

It's very much the same here, having a car is far more convenient to get around, even though we are a large city

 

[Sherlock77]

Sorry about your car and the rotten feelings that go with losing it, even temporarily. What comes to me is being embarrassed. Like I want to explain that I’m really not that whatever it is, that I’ve been reduced to taking the bus.

And of course I realize many people take the bus for many different reasons, not all have to do with reduced circumstances.

I remind myself that feelings are often irrational and get on with my day.

I’m glad you’ll get your car, and independence, back soon.

I do have other friends who don't own vehicles at all... I think it's because I'm so independent in my lifestyle, and it feels like this has slowed me down to what feels like a crawl... Perhaps what other bus riders feel all the time

I just need to have a better attitude about it

 

[FayetheAspie]

Ah someone who gets it!

I feel a loser because of not having a licence and worse still, live in a country, where a licence really is practical and have extreme agoraphobia, so cannot take public transport.

Thankfully, due to internet, I have a sense of control.

It is a truly demoralising experience for me.

@Suzanne I do not have a liscense and I don't think public transport is an option locally because of not being in a big city. Nevertheless I would prefer to be near fields and keep my horse than to have access to public transport. My Mama is currently my driver when I need to go somewhere.

 

[Suzanne]

@Suzanne I do not have a liscense and I don't think public transport is an option locally because of not being in a big city. Nevertheless I would prefer to be near fields and keep my horse than to have access to public transport. My Mama is currently my driver when I need to go somewhere.

At least your mama is your driver. My husband is, but he works so much, that by the time he has a break, he doesn't want to go anywhere and thus, it is hard for me.

 

[Judge]

Not having a car for more than a few days always feels like a kick in the gut.

 

[ManuelXX]

Ah someone who gets it!

I feel a loser because of not having a licence and worse still, live in a country, where a licence really is practical and have extreme agoraphobia, so cannot take public transport.

Thankfully, due to internet, I have a sense of control.

It is a truly demoralising experience for me.

I understand you... I formally can get the driving license but, due to my problem in coordination, it's better if I don't. I travel with public transport, but all my friends ask me continually "what about your driving licence?". I don't want to tells them about my coordination problem or about autism, so it's frustrating.