Before I jump into this, I wanted to recognize that there's a prior discussion from 2014 but given it's a rather old thread and we have lots of new members that I thought maybe it'd be better to start a new topic.
I like to attach stories and memories to objects, like a Paris metro ticket from when I took a trip to visit Versailles. It was on my desk, along with some other clutter. A household member decided to be helpful and cleaned it up and was going through them. I asked them what they doing with my stuff, and they remarked that I was accumulating stuff over the years to the point where there wasn't an open space, and that clearly, I didn't seem to care about the stuff, so they might as well go through it and toss out anything that wasn't of use. I remarked that my stuff should be left alone and they remarked it's their home too and they get upset when I let spaces get cluttered.
I had a situation happen at work as well - I have a collection of different transit tokens and tickets along with some train models. One day, I noticed they were out of order and one was missing. I realized that what happened was one of the cleaning staff was dusting and must had accidentally knocked one off, and unfortunately, they were sitting on my cubicle wall, just above the waste basket, so one most likely fell in and got thrown out. In that case I accepted it, since they were just doing their job. But in the first example, I think I'm upset because the household member really likes order, and their perception of my disorder offended them and required correction.
Have others have similar circumstances, and regardless, how might you approach the situation?
I like to attach stories and memories to objects, like a Paris metro ticket from when I took a trip to visit Versailles. It was on my desk, along with some other clutter. A household member decided to be helpful and cleaned it up and was going through them. I asked them what they doing with my stuff, and they remarked that I was accumulating stuff over the years to the point where there wasn't an open space, and that clearly, I didn't seem to care about the stuff, so they might as well go through it and toss out anything that wasn't of use. I remarked that my stuff should be left alone and they remarked it's their home too and they get upset when I let spaces get cluttered.
I had a situation happen at work as well - I have a collection of different transit tokens and tickets along with some train models. One day, I noticed they were out of order and one was missing. I realized that what happened was one of the cleaning staff was dusting and must had accidentally knocked one off, and unfortunately, they were sitting on my cubicle wall, just above the waste basket, so one most likely fell in and got thrown out. In that case I accepted it, since they were just doing their job. But in the first example, I think I'm upset because the household member really likes order, and their perception of my disorder offended them and required correction.
Have others have similar circumstances, and regardless, how might you approach the situation?