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You're not going to find this behavior as any sort of ASD trait.Hi,
5 years of relationship with a self-diagnosed ASD boyfriend and I just found out he has been two-timing me.
I have been reading that ASD traits include honesty and loyalty. Anyone can advise me what could he be thinking and what should I do?
Exactly! He exhibits a failure of character and ethics. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You will be better off without him because he WILL cheat again.Folks with ASD are all different, and ASD is no excuse for cheating.
Take your notions of "ASD honesty and loyalty" out of the equation. It is an erroneous stereotype that is clouding your thinking on this issue.Anyone can advise me what could he be thinking and what should I do?
The irony is his wife cheated on him. He went through the first year of separation with alcohol before I met him (he was cleaning up). Never imagined he would do it to others.Exactly! He exhibits a failure of character and ethics. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You will be better off without him because he WILL cheat again.
if I look at what she has (outwardly) and what I don’t, my self-esteem will hit rock bottom. In that one phone call with her, she boasted of his active pursuit & a diamond ring to top it all. She had the real deal but felt they were incompatible.You're not going to find this behavior as any sort of ASD trait.
You two need to sort out the underlying reasons for this behavior. Communication styles? Respect? What does this other person offer that you don't that would lure him away?
I know, that conversation, if you can have it, is best done without emotion, otherwise his autistic brain is going to shut down and you're going to end up in a messy, emotional, dysfunctional interaction. Good luck with that. (sarcasm)
Well, I have had to be honest because my spouse says I am a bad liar because my expression and body language gives me away too easily.Yes and for same variety of reasons NTs do. That honesty thing is at most a tendency, not a rule.