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People on reddit and other forums can be so mean

Also, Reddit is very lonely. You don't like have actual friends on there. You just talk into the void and hope someone doesn't say something mean or downvote you.
Yes, exactly. Not my piece of cake at all.

And the mean answers finally discourage you completely to use Reddit. Little reward, lots of negative experiences. I wonder what keeps people there.

The interaction with a crowd is very lonely as well.

One post I got, I had 59 downvotes. You know what it was for? A man found a copperhead snake in a bucket and he wanted to know what to do. The sjws were like "Oh release it, oh release it". I said the rational answer, that we do not know the ops coordination, experience or if there are pets or children nearby. I said to call animal control.
I have had similar experiences with Reddit users. They tend to not like responsible answers. Have to see everything as a political gesture. Like if you have a certain experience, you're not allowed to talk about it, because they think it's sexist or whatever, e.g. that yes, a lot of people enjoy traditional gender roles. Or god forbid you say "Asperger's" - Hans Asperger was a nazi. Doesn't matter that's an element of a narration about past experiences. Reading with comprehension? No, some of them just see buzzwords.
 
That is why I closed my account too not only because of the filthy language but the hate.i was not posting much on the fear of flying sub but already I already getting some hate but stopped before I got hurt.
 
Sometimes bullies can invade other parts of the internet, taking their poison with them to other places where their victims may have taken refuge to. Sometimes they can even become mods on some sites, which is a great way to get their victims like flies in a cobweb. Oh, the evilness of them. I hate them. They ruined my life.
Bullies are everywhere online that isn't well moderated (so 99% + of the non-business internet, and most of the business side (les obvious there though).
Every forum. Every "safe space". Every "open" space (YouTube, TikTok, "news" Web Sites, etc), ...

Everyone online is exposed, and most people will get caught in something unhealthy for a while.

As for the evil: you're right, but I think you underestimate the scope.
Every space where "the law if symmetry" is routinely violated is evil. Including all selective one-sided moderation.

The worst bullies are in the "Dark Triad" of course. But how much worse are the "cry-bullies"? The Dark Triad cause a lot of trouble per person. But there are many many more cry-bullies.
 
Cry bullies are the worst they constantly nip at you and then when you finally have enough and blow up youre the bad guy!
 
Cry bullies are the worst they constantly nip at you and then when you finally have enough and blow up youre the bad guy!
Yes, that's exactly what I had to put up with, although they loved twisting things and saying I was the one playing the victim.

Usually online cry bullies exhibit the following behaviours:-

1. Are usually the admin's favourite so have nothing to fear, knowing they'll always be backed up and protected

2. Become easily offended due to frequent misinterpretation, often the misinterpretation is done deliberately if they're in an entitled group like a favourite of the admin (see number 1)

3. Target those who wear their heart on their sleeves (which isn't the same as becoming offended by everything) and very subtly egg them on so that they react and then the bullies can accuse them of being bad people

4. Use their victimhood as an excuse for their biased behaviour

5. Can't accept general opinions or beliefs different to their own and often use name-calling as a weapon to get their way, or the old "I'm offended!" chestnut

6. Often linger on forums or social media in a gang, cliquing up with each other and invading threads that a victim of their's may have created and just deliberately disagree (in an intimidating way) with everything that person has written

7. Often twists people's words and commonly uses the kafkatrap whenever someone calls them out on it

8. Sometimes posts cryptic sarcasm if they're jealous of someone or don't like them. Their posts can look genuine but if you really read between the lines you'll see that they're mocking

9. Often lie, tell cock and bull stories, but are good at convincing everyone, just to get attention

10. Post sensitive information often in the hope that someone will get confused and comment, just so they can fly up and pull the "I'm offended!" card. It gives them a sense of entitlement and an excuse to be a "victim"

11. Can be dominant and take over the site with all their convincing stories and posts

12. Make out they're wonderful people who care about everyone and never lie or make fun of anyone or trigger anyone

13. Never listen when their victims are trying to apologise or make peace with them, they just carry on shaming them and acting hostile, yet expecting their victims to move on

14. Like to lecture and criticise their victims, often break site rules yet worship them at the same time

15. Continuously try to "get their victims back" for one mistake their victims might have made like 2 years ago (see number 13)

16. Often display a snootiness about them that can feel intimidating or even annoying to some

17. If you're the type of person who genuinely cares about people, you find it hard to care about them and their victimhood, because most of the time they are making themselves victims in their lives and then using the "stop victim-blaming me!" as a means of protection


Of course it's normal to show a couple of these traits when posting on forums, as nobody is perfect. But cry bullies on the internet show at least 12 of these behaviours.
 
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Also, Reddit is very lonely. You don't like have actual friends on there. You just talk into the void and hope someone doesn't say something mean or downvote you.
Agreed.
I don't like the format at all, and I don't use it any longer.
I really don't see the appeal.
 
Cry bullies are the worst they constantly nip at you and then when you finally have enough and blow up youre the bad guy!
This happened on another website I was on.
However, this was a deliberate tactic there and incorporated mods, minions, and sock puppets.
 
Sometimes bullies can invade other parts of the internet, taking their poison with them to other places where their victims may have taken refuge to.
I have been cyberstalked pretty much from the genesis of the modern internet.
The joys of being on the spectrum in an NT-dominated world. Yay!

The main problem was not the stalkers themselves, but the culture of the site supporting their anti-social contributions.
 
Meanwhile here I actually connected to more closer people even though many of you are faceless.
I am one of those faceless men. :cool:
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Yes, that's exactly what I had to put up with, although they loved twisting things and saying I was the one playing the victim.
Some communities are particularly toxic environments where misrepresentation is an ingrained tactic as a means of control.

6. Often linger on forums or social media in a gang, cliquing up with each other and invading threads that a victim of their's may have created and just deliberately disagree (in an intimidating way) with everything that person has written
And then they laugh when you appeal for justice from the mods/admin with no effect because of the bias.
This sort of injustice is a deliberate strategy to "encourage" ppl off the site.
 
Around 95% of the forums I use or did use are really dead now, or full of bots or trolls. The active ones like GameFAQs I avoid, as I know that discussions rarely stay civil on there. But Reddit has a terrible looking layout.

You need to click below posts to read the replies. But I guess it's good if people specifically respond to your post, but the layout is nothing compared to XenForo. But in general, most forums that have sub-sections I rarely gain traction in.

Look at this thread here, for example. That guy was just being silly. What does a spice have to do with a person's skin tone?

There's a lot of ads on autismforums.com, so maybe I will install Opera again. The ads covering the box where I compose the message has caused me to make typos.

 
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I have been cyberstalked pretty much from the genesis of the modern internet.
The joys of being on the spectrum in an NT-dominated world. Yay!

The main problem was not the stalkers themselves, but the culture of the site supporting their anti-social contributions.

It's been happening to me as well.
 
It reminds me of school, and also times in the public, where my voice was rejected. The way I talk is the Aspie way. I can't help it. I just want to share what I've found helpful, expecting the other person to do the same. It works that way usually with neurodiverse people. But a lot of Neurotypicals respond to me with cruelty. As if my infodumping and stimming was offensive, bossy, or mean. They think I'm retarded or some know it all. When really, I don't know much at all. I just like to share the things I've learned, with the happy hope that the other person will share with me.
On this point, what I've also found on Reddit (and in quite a few other situations) that my Aspie "weirdness" seems to seep through just my writing. I can't see it when I go back and review it. The paragraphs and sentences make just as much sense to me as what I'd read from a journalist or technical writer. But, somehow, people notice that there's a weirdo behind the message and act accordingly. "It's not what you write but how you write it," I guess.

In his "thin-slice judgments" papers, psychologist Noah Sasson couldn't find an effect from writing alone. He measured quick judgment and distancing behaviors from non-ND observers when encountering an autistic persons speech or audio-visual behaviors, but not writing. So we tend to think we're "safe" when participating in a forum where written posts are the only medium. I'm thinking there is more to this story than we know. A lot of us feel like we have a magic "aura" that turns people off, by mysterious actions we don't really understand.
 
I must say, I like the existence of this particular thread. It's helped me to devalue Reddit as a source for extremely technical information best found elsewhere.
 

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