Just curious...I was thinking about all this last night, how even before my BF revealed his diagnosis to me there were many traits (some aspie traits, some just uniquely him) that caused me to fall in love with him, and the last time I was in love was with another most likely undiagnosed on the spectrum man who I was completely enthralled with.
Things I loved about him right away:
-His innocence, almost in a childlike way. He is so observant about absolutely everything in the world, and points out things to me that I never even noticed before. I notice sights and sounds and smells in a way I never have before. I had never seen anyone so enthralled by something as ordinary as a sunset, and it made me realize just how beautiful the world really is sometimes. He completely changed my way of seeing the world.
-His politeness and chivalry. He was always opening doors for me, outright refusing to let me pay even to the point of adorably getting upset when I kept asking! He calls me all the time just to see how my day is going. Even though he can be a bit clingy...his loyalty and devotion is like nothing I've ever seen before.
-His quietness. As someone who is semi-outgoing myself, his quiet mysteriousness enthralled me from the start.
-His love of his passions. He is so smart and amazing with computers it actually baffles me, the way he can concentrate on a task for hours on end and absolutely throw himself into his work is incredible. He also loves reading and his love of books was so sweet to me, something I could always use to get him to open up when he was feeling shy at first.
-How straightforward he is. He tells me exactly what he thinks when I ask him to, and I don't honestly think he's ever lied to me. His honesty is so amazing and something I admire so much.
These are just a few things!
And when he's told me what he liked about me, he's said he was immediately drawn to my confidence, outgoing nature, kindness and caringness.
So...NTs, what attracted you to your aspie partner? Aspies, what attracted you to your NT?
(As a quick side note: I've been seen a bunch of posts on here of aspies worried they would never be able to date, get a girlfriend, etc. I can tell you now that at least from my experience, I absolutely love dating an aspie and despite our differences and issues, I would not trade this for anything!)
Things I loved about him right away:
-His innocence, almost in a childlike way. He is so observant about absolutely everything in the world, and points out things to me that I never even noticed before. I notice sights and sounds and smells in a way I never have before. I had never seen anyone so enthralled by something as ordinary as a sunset, and it made me realize just how beautiful the world really is sometimes. He completely changed my way of seeing the world.
-His politeness and chivalry. He was always opening doors for me, outright refusing to let me pay even to the point of adorably getting upset when I kept asking! He calls me all the time just to see how my day is going. Even though he can be a bit clingy...his loyalty and devotion is like nothing I've ever seen before.
-His quietness. As someone who is semi-outgoing myself, his quiet mysteriousness enthralled me from the start.
-His love of his passions. He is so smart and amazing with computers it actually baffles me, the way he can concentrate on a task for hours on end and absolutely throw himself into his work is incredible. He also loves reading and his love of books was so sweet to me, something I could always use to get him to open up when he was feeling shy at first.
-How straightforward he is. He tells me exactly what he thinks when I ask him to, and I don't honestly think he's ever lied to me. His honesty is so amazing and something I admire so much.
These are just a few things!
And when he's told me what he liked about me, he's said he was immediately drawn to my confidence, outgoing nature, kindness and caringness.
So...NTs, what attracted you to your aspie partner? Aspies, what attracted you to your NT?
(As a quick side note: I've been seen a bunch of posts on here of aspies worried they would never be able to date, get a girlfriend, etc. I can tell you now that at least from my experience, I absolutely love dating an aspie and despite our differences and issues, I would not trade this for anything!)