He only really speaks to his brother and his one friend besides me, so I guess it makes sense in a way...but on the other hand, I've read so much on this forum about aspie emotional behavior, and none of it matches my boyfriend.
I've tried to do my research on Asperger's ever since he told me his diagnosis, and I've read up enough about it to know that the majority of aspies don't seem to be comfortable with touch or emotions.
The thing is, my boyfriend is absolutely obsessed with touch, loves hugging, kissing, holding me. He absolutely loves intimacy and sex. He says "I love you" and "you are everything to me" about a million times a day. He is so affectionate it's almost bizarre. We can talk on the phone for 2 hours and he'll immediately ask me if I'm free to do a video chat in a couple minutes.
I do love his affectionate side of course...but it completely confuses me. From what I've read aspies are not big on touching or sharing feelings, and he absolutely loves both of those (positive feelings anyway- he can't deal with negative ones.)
Is this normal? Are some aspies just more connected to their emotional side than others? .... Or is he only doing these things because he thinks it will make me happy? He knew even before we were dating that I am a very tactile and affectionate person, and sometimes I fear that he is just doing all these things to make me happy, but doesn't enjoy it himself.
I've tried to do my research on Asperger's ever since he told me his diagnosis, and I've read up enough about it to know that the majority of aspies don't seem to be comfortable with touch or emotions.
The thing is, my boyfriend is absolutely obsessed with touch, loves hugging, kissing, holding me. He absolutely loves intimacy and sex. He says "I love you" and "you are everything to me" about a million times a day. He is so affectionate it's almost bizarre. We can talk on the phone for 2 hours and he'll immediately ask me if I'm free to do a video chat in a couple minutes.
I do love his affectionate side of course...but it completely confuses me. From what I've read aspies are not big on touching or sharing feelings, and he absolutely loves both of those (positive feelings anyway- he can't deal with negative ones.)
Is this normal? Are some aspies just more connected to their emotional side than others? .... Or is he only doing these things because he thinks it will make me happy? He knew even before we were dating that I am a very tactile and affectionate person, and sometimes I fear that he is just doing all these things to make me happy, but doesn't enjoy it himself.