Ì actually had a situation like this last weekend. But then again, perhaps even my mind makes something else out of it.
I was at this rave, hanging out at the bar, being the aspie I am, not talking to anyone, sipping on my drink in the darkest corner, lol. I was enjoying myself, though I wasn't really in the mood for dancing. I didn't know any people, nor did I have any intention to actually converse.
So eventually, a woman walks up to me. "Everything ok?" she asked and I told her everything was fine. In an attempt to strike conversation I asked her how she was doing and such, had a very brief chat where she told me she didn't really enjoy the type of music at the rave we were both attending. Aside from me wanting to be the smartass telling her "then what are you doing here, if you don't like this kind of music?" I kinda kept quiet, instead of making it look like I was critizing how she'd spend her saturday night.
Anyway; the fact that she came up to me and asked me if everything was ok, might've been just to strike conversation, yet considering where I was standing, on my own and such, it might also be her asking me if I was actually enjoying myself or if I was on the verge of, well, I don't know... a breakdown, or at least emotionally not doing well.
It's sometimes that these situations confuse me, since I have no idea if, and perhaps this is even worse, when it revolves around women, if they try to strike up a conversation or they're just curious and actually caring.
I'm not really the type of guy who walks around with huge grin on his face; not because I'm miserable... far from it (heck, a friend of mine told me this earlier this week "despite you dressing in black, you're actually a pretty cheery guy who likes to laugh and have a good time").
It's one of the rare situations where it happens. My parents don't ask me if I'm ok, my friends never do... these people know, that if I'm not ok, I will tell them. And perhaps similarly, if I'm not in the mood for a party cause I'm feeling like crap, I'll opt to stay home instead. It's also when the notion of asking someone how he's doing at a party/rave is odd in that I can't understand why someone who is not feeling at least neutral or better, would even haul his/her butt to such an event. Oncemore makes me think "you silly NT's", lol.
People never understand that I'm joking, when I'm joking. And then they just look at me, possibly puzzled, because my jokes don't makes sense if interpreted as serious statements.
Yeah, mine would seem so non-sequitur as well if they're being perceived as serious statements sometimes. Yet people still ask me "are you joking?".
Perhaps my issue is that sometimes I just have a funny way of expressing myself. I often use humor, even when it's a serious matter; euphemisms and such. That in turn makes people laugh a bit more about the issues at hand and often lightens the mood a bit.
Delivery with a straight face throws people off though. I mean, if you're joking and already smiling, people know what's coming. Keeping a pokerface while making a remark definitely puts people on the wrong track.