Kayla55
Well-Known Member
Returning from website for women it was clear that it was easier for NT women to identify what happened and have clearer understanding of different types of men.
So we cleared up that what happened to me in one of my early relationships was legally defined as rape, so I learnt to say that my boyfriend raped me.
Since it took years for me to have another boyfriend and I would hide behind my work. The other women cleared up that he was a misogynist but since I'd experienced quite few men who had habit of insulting women or putting them down I became confused thinking that society in general permitted this.
I didn't understand why he would swear and insult me the way he did, but it usually ended in me being raped and I was distressed at way I saw girls treated better on TV and couldn't understand what I did wrong. I was told I was stupid and made to feel bad about money, I took it literally in that he meant for me to act like intelligent women and not dress up but I learnt he had problems with himself.
So we concluded that NT women tend to understand these insults and where they come from, my resulting melt downs at being continuously insulted were met with hostility and attitude such as smack the dishwasher when it packs up, and in old days it was legal to cane your wife with cane size of a thumb. So asd females do not understand how to brush these remarks off, having less female friends isolates you and feel you don't have someone who can help you put words onto and process what's happening.
When it is said rape is act of violence and not desire, it's confusing.
So we cleared up that what happened to me in one of my early relationships was legally defined as rape, so I learnt to say that my boyfriend raped me.
Since it took years for me to have another boyfriend and I would hide behind my work. The other women cleared up that he was a misogynist but since I'd experienced quite few men who had habit of insulting women or putting them down I became confused thinking that society in general permitted this.
I didn't understand why he would swear and insult me the way he did, but it usually ended in me being raped and I was distressed at way I saw girls treated better on TV and couldn't understand what I did wrong. I was told I was stupid and made to feel bad about money, I took it literally in that he meant for me to act like intelligent women and not dress up but I learnt he had problems with himself.
So we concluded that NT women tend to understand these insults and where they come from, my resulting melt downs at being continuously insulted were met with hostility and attitude such as smack the dishwasher when it packs up, and in old days it was legal to cane your wife with cane size of a thumb. So asd females do not understand how to brush these remarks off, having less female friends isolates you and feel you don't have someone who can help you put words onto and process what's happening.
When it is said rape is act of violence and not desire, it's confusing.
