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Men: What is your definition of a "nice" lady?

Discussion in 'Love, Relationships and Dating' started by Catlover614, Jul 23, 2016.

  1. Catlover614

    Catlover614 Love Conquers

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    I've turned the tables. Guys, it's your turn to establish what you consider girlfriend/wife worthy?
     
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    Rayner Well-Known Member

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    Uhm... I'm not sure I have a definition of per say.. I'm sure Kelly qualifies as a nice lady. ;) :D
     
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  3. clg114

    clg114 Still crazy, after all these years. Staff Member V.I.P Member

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    It would be very hard for me to accurately describe my wife here. She is so much to me and our family, she is just beyond description. She is a NT, but she understands my weirdness very well. We not only love each other, but we depend on each other and need each other as well. She will actually put my needs ahead of her own. Her love is unconditional. She is a wonderful wife, mother, grandmother and great grandmother. She is everything to me. That is what I think a nice lady is.
     
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    Shiznown Well-Known Member

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    A woman that one would consider old fashioned. A woman whom is nice, caring, loyal, loving. A woman who doesn't nag, or try to manipulate their significant other. A woman who care about their partners needs, all needs including sexual ones. A woman who sticks by even during the hard times.
     
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    Shiznown Well-Known Member

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    I think it's easier to find the lost city of Atlantis than find a woman here with the qualities that I have described.
     
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    Cali Cat Femme Ferale

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    Are you saying you don't think much of the ladies here? Or, by "here" do you mean where you live? Sorry ... the old Aspie "literalism" just kicked in. :p
     
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    Cali Cat Femme Ferale

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    I think I qualify in every area except "nice." I would not say I'm a "nice" person. Possibly "kind," possibly "friendly," but not "nice." I'm far too opinionated and mouthy to ever be considered "nice."

    What I'm curious about, though, is the "nagging" part. Could you elaborate on what exactly constitutes "nagging" as opposed to "reminding" or just being worried about a particular situation? Also, what do you see as "manipulation?" I'm quite well aware women tend to do these things, and some are quite blatant about it, but I'm concerned about the more subtle forms of those behaviors that men find annoying.
     
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    Cali Cat Femme Ferale

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    She's a lucky lady to have such a nice guy for a husband too! ;)
     
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    Rayner Well-Known Member

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    I'm sure you qualify as a nice lady too, being mouthy and opinioned does not disqualify you from being a nice lady. Although being a man would probably disqualify someone from being a nice lady.:p

     
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    A pretty face like yours (which looks like it's about to giggle in your photo) or some variation of that (as their are many nice looking faces out their). Certainly there are a few physical features I'd be turned on by but as this seemed to imply personality aspects I'll stick with those (except to say that a nice indian style smile always make for a friendly lady). Loyalty, understanding, willing to give something or someone a chance, strong opinions, good listening skills.

    Nope...no using the word 'sexual' in this family friendly forum lol.

    Oh I think we found it a few years back. Besides here is one of the few likely places you'll find that as it'll come from like-minded women. It's just a question of whether or not they're single or too unnerved by love or face to face contact.

    You seriously just look like a councillor or a therapist by profession.
     
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    My definition of a nice lady is basically any female that isn't disloyal, self-centered and or a narcissist
     
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    Catlover614 Love Conquers

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    The_Hopeless_Aspie_Guy you make me laugh. Thanks for the compliment,too.
     
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    Which bit did out of curiosity as I wasn't expecting any of that to be funny?
     
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    Catlover614 Love Conquers

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    You said,"no using the word sexual in this family-friendly forum,lol".....sexuality is a normal human trait and it's ok to discuss openly, but in a clean, healthy way. I'm sorry if I disturbed you.
     
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    Catlover614 Love Conquers

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    Yes, the proverbs 31 woman...does she exist today?
     
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    Where I live. Whenever I state here, I mean my state.
     
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    When I state "nice", I mean nice relative to me. Talking to me with a sweet voice, rarely raising her tone, ect.
     
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    Nagging as in bringing up past failures and harping on them. Manipulation as in trying to use you for money, or trying to use you in general. Trying to manipulate you to be less healthy, or less fit so that you are on a similar level to them health-wise. Not wanting you to get stronger, because they're intimidated by you and rather have you be weak, or if not weak very average in terms of strength.
     
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    I was referring to women in my state, not this forum. In terms of it being related to not approaching women, or not talking to them; that is not the case. I have talked to women in college and other places and things never workout. Either we have nothing in common, they are social marxists, or they simply stop talking to me. Also, since I live in Baltimore there are A LOT of drug addicts. The only place I can find women to talk to is college and like I said, our ideologies are often vastly different. For example, I despise Marxism. It is very hard, almost impossible to find a woman here who isn't a hardcore progressive leftest. On top of that, most of the women in their 20s and 30s here are polygamous. Sorry, but I don't want to kiss a woman after she's done things to another dude.
     
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    Nagging is a problem from both sides. Men nag about, not being as competitive as they are. I am not competing against anyone but myself to improve my well being and peace of mind. Nag, nag, nag...YOU SPENT HOW MUCH? or WHY CAN'T YOU ACT LIKE MY EX? Both men AND women put a lot of undue stress on one another. Always complaining I don't give you enough sex?? Well,maybe instead of demanding things like, "Suck my ___", they could kiss you like they love you and not be in a hurry to get 'off'. We truly just need to respect one another and communicate in a calm manner. No one likes being screamed at. And to throw past failures in another's face is not healthy or helpful to either side. You reap what you sow.
     
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