Strong and kind
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Hi all,
I posted here some months ago when my Aspie ex, who I loved, broke up with me suddenly and then vanished for two months with zero, and I mean zero, communication.
He has now appeared again. He texted me and we met up a few days later, he happened to be in my part of the state. It was great to see him, he apologized for hurting me, which was huge to me. We had an amazing, intimate time together. Then he left again. I had no expectation that I would ever see him again, so I was happy, even though I now have no idea what this means. I don't want to put pressure on him or the situation by asking or pushing. Was this a better ending / closure or a new beginning? Should I just wait and see?
The more alarming issue though is that he expressed that he'd been very lonely and unhappy and questioned why he should go on living. He's Aspie, he means what he says, and I'm scared. I told him I am here for him, that he can call me anytime, but I really wanted to say that he needs to find a therapist and / or call a suicide hotline. Please help me figure out what I can do for him. No matter what happens to our relationship, I love him unconditionally and knowing he's in pain hurts me so much.
I am so angry with the lack of compassion and gentleness in our world, and towards those who experience life differently. I want him to know that I know he has AS and that I want to learn his language and that I love him just the way he is. I have told him once, but not flat out like: "I know you have Aspbergers and I love and care for you just the way you are."
Right now, I just need to make sure he doesn't harm himself.
Thanks in advance for your insights.
I posted here some months ago when my Aspie ex, who I loved, broke up with me suddenly and then vanished for two months with zero, and I mean zero, communication.
He has now appeared again. He texted me and we met up a few days later, he happened to be in my part of the state. It was great to see him, he apologized for hurting me, which was huge to me. We had an amazing, intimate time together. Then he left again. I had no expectation that I would ever see him again, so I was happy, even though I now have no idea what this means. I don't want to put pressure on him or the situation by asking or pushing. Was this a better ending / closure or a new beginning? Should I just wait and see?
The more alarming issue though is that he expressed that he'd been very lonely and unhappy and questioned why he should go on living. He's Aspie, he means what he says, and I'm scared. I told him I am here for him, that he can call me anytime, but I really wanted to say that he needs to find a therapist and / or call a suicide hotline. Please help me figure out what I can do for him. No matter what happens to our relationship, I love him unconditionally and knowing he's in pain hurts me so much.
I am so angry with the lack of compassion and gentleness in our world, and towards those who experience life differently. I want him to know that I know he has AS and that I want to learn his language and that I love him just the way he is. I have told him once, but not flat out like: "I know you have Aspbergers and I love and care for you just the way you are."
Right now, I just need to make sure he doesn't harm himself.
Thanks in advance for your insights.