Hi,
Something I read here some time ago: Some people only post when they need help. I am one of those people. I need your help.
I lost a good person, yesterday. We connected immensely in a short time. And she became very important to me. We shared the same humor, the same thoughts, sometimes it was scary. I would think of her and she suddenly shows up. I felt comfortable around her and she with me. We talked about many things even related to Autism. I don't even talk with my family about Autism. So yeah she is/was very important to me.
Anyway, things got complicated. I have a hard time seeing the difference between a friend and a girlfriend. We just connected. She has a boyfriend. And yesterday she asked me to make a promise that I just can't keep. It is impossible to make this promise.
I thought that it would be best to put some distance between us. No more talking, looking for her, hang out. I didn't see any other way to respect the promise I was supposed to make. But it destroyed everything. I feel like a wreck. Tears keep coming. I feel desperate. I can't focus. What is even worse is that I know she is equally sad about this. I wanted to talk to her, but didn't know what to say and at some point I could see her tears. If we didn't split ways at this moment ... there would be a pool of tears. It kills me to know it hurts for her.
Now the help part. I don't know what to do ... my emotions are so strong. So overwhelming. How do I make it stop? How can I cope with this? Maybe you guys have some experience you can share. What made it go away? What actions did you take? I am looking for something tangible to do. Something concrete. I read and hear "love yourself" a lot. But what does this mean? What do I do?
Help.
-Snow
Something I read here some time ago: Some people only post when they need help. I am one of those people. I need your help.
I lost a good person, yesterday. We connected immensely in a short time. And she became very important to me. We shared the same humor, the same thoughts, sometimes it was scary. I would think of her and she suddenly shows up. I felt comfortable around her and she with me. We talked about many things even related to Autism. I don't even talk with my family about Autism. So yeah she is/was very important to me.
Anyway, things got complicated. I have a hard time seeing the difference between a friend and a girlfriend. We just connected. She has a boyfriend. And yesterday she asked me to make a promise that I just can't keep. It is impossible to make this promise.
I thought that it would be best to put some distance between us. No more talking, looking for her, hang out. I didn't see any other way to respect the promise I was supposed to make. But it destroyed everything. I feel like a wreck. Tears keep coming. I feel desperate. I can't focus. What is even worse is that I know she is equally sad about this. I wanted to talk to her, but didn't know what to say and at some point I could see her tears. If we didn't split ways at this moment ... there would be a pool of tears. It kills me to know it hurts for her.
Now the help part. I don't know what to do ... my emotions are so strong. So overwhelming. How do I make it stop? How can I cope with this? Maybe you guys have some experience you can share. What made it go away? What actions did you take? I am looking for something tangible to do. Something concrete. I read and hear "love yourself" a lot. But what does this mean? What do I do?
Help.
-Snow