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Kissing

Tease her, nibble her upper or lower lip...then smell & kiss her neck. Gently bite her lower jaw...
 
I've only ever kissed people on the cheek (except in drama classes) but I would say that I am a very affectionate person who loves hugs and kisses from family and very close friends.
 
When I say I like kissing I only like kissing my partner or my kids, anybody else is just strange. I don't understand why people kiss on the cheek for a greeting and even shaking hands I find weird.
 
How bout the pretend kiss? You arrive in a social situation/holiday; you are supposed to hug someone of the opposite gender. So you hug em... and they lean in for a kiss...but it's the ole fake kiss! :eek: Instead of kissing you on the cheek, they kiss the air. Maybe Sportster is onto something. The fake kissey thing has always foiled me Aspie senses...:unsure:

Or there's someone's cheek you don't want to kiss :S ...but what the heck, you go for it! :idea: Now you feel dizzy/guilty/sweaty...you can't believe you kissed someone you don't like! Now ya have to talk to them! ARrgggggggg.............after a few ackward moments, it's time to go outside for an oxygen break...
 
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I don't like "French" or open-mouth kissing. Not at all. It was forced upon me on my very first date and that might be another reason I find it repulsive. Maybe if I had "feelings" for the other person, it might be different, but those "feelings" were never allowed to develop. I felt like a blossom that was ripped open rather than being allowed to bloom at the right time.
 
I understand how many can be repulsed by French kissing. I don't think people should be doing that until BOTH partners are comfortable with doing it. People who force anything in a romance are not the kind of people I would want to be dating, let alone kissing.
 
After going on an exchange program in France last year, what I would consider "French" is kissing is more like the awkward pretend kiss that Sparticus was talking about. In France, it is customary for a boy and a girl, two girls or two boys who are very, very close friends to kiss each other on the cheek as a greeting, even if they have never met before in my life (boys who aren't very close platonic friends simply shake hands - by the way, I can never do firm handshakes, they always turn out too soft because I'm so apprehensive). I actually was fine with all the kissing, though. It was at least a relief to not have the uncertainty of whether to do an air kiss or a real kiss, and it meant that I got to kiss every single girl I spoke too!
 
About a year ago it was different enough to be new and interesting, since I never had before. Now I'd really just rather not.
 
I enjoy it quite a bit! I've never really had an issue with physical contact, unless it is someone I either do not like or do not know.
 
I'm cold basically. I can go along with it but it seems merely a sensory experience.

Sportster said:
Since Aspies tend to dislike touching, I'm curious about the views of others where kissing is concerned. For me, I do not see the purpose and find it somewhat repulsive.
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I have always been very affectionate...with those I know and love. I can only deal with handshakes if they're firm or I just about get sick.

I love a TIGHT hug. Not "crack my ribs" tight but firm and warm. : )

Kissing as in "not family" always leads somewhere or me leaving...lol I could do that ALL the time. *sighs*
 
Sparticus said:
Tease her, nibble her upper or lower lip...then smell & kiss her neck. Gently bite her lower jaw...
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In all seriousness kissing is great fun, but not in the morning or late at night because their breath goes stagnant.
 
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