Alright, so a lot to chew on here.
One of the scenarios I had envisioned was that this was unintentional flirting but some of it was so overt I wasn't sure how likely that was but @GadAbout did provide some meaningful insight. On the other hand I think I was hoping for more responses like @James KirkwoodNY but that was me being a little naive considering the behavior. Also, I don't think it would be appropriate for us to be best buddies even given her short time with us and me being two levels higher in the org chart.
I want to address the sexual harassment comments. Yes, I am aware it can happen to men and it has happened to me with a woman I used to report to. It may shock you to find out that despite that incident and this one I am, without being humble, very average for my age. Maybe slightly better shape but that isn't saying much. Workplace romances happen and I don't think advances are automatically "harassment" unless it is persistent after being asked to stop or it is someone with influence or authority trying to extract some kind of quid pro quo. She is a very attractive young lady and I'm sure the unattached men closer to her age would not mind the same attention and would call it anything other than harassment.
I have a safety net and I won't be alone if I have to confront her directly. I am out of the office most of this week but plan on addressing it when everyone is back from the holidays. I have a rock solid reputation that I have carefully built that will afford some protection and Alice's current direct supervisor is a woman I have partnered with often on different corporate initiatives and has helped me navigate some tough conversations with other millennial women. There are a few other steps I've taken to protect myself that I won't share here but I am doing some serious CYA to keep this from blowing up in my face.
The one thing I want to prevent is having her simply lose her job. I have another autistic employee who has shared his stories about trouble at past employers, bullying, and other struggles. He and I work very well together but his stories haunt me. I can tell you that everytime someone gets fired, right or wrong, there is a chance their career will be ended. With less than a year of experience and being autistic I am not ready to potentially doom this young lady. At the same time I have dealt with numerous tough calls in my career and if it comes down to her job or protecting my livelihood I am only willing to go so far for her.
One of the scenarios I had envisioned was that this was unintentional flirting but some of it was so overt I wasn't sure how likely that was but @GadAbout did provide some meaningful insight. On the other hand I think I was hoping for more responses like @James KirkwoodNY but that was me being a little naive considering the behavior. Also, I don't think it would be appropriate for us to be best buddies even given her short time with us and me being two levels higher in the org chart.
I want to address the sexual harassment comments. Yes, I am aware it can happen to men and it has happened to me with a woman I used to report to. It may shock you to find out that despite that incident and this one I am, without being humble, very average for my age. Maybe slightly better shape but that isn't saying much. Workplace romances happen and I don't think advances are automatically "harassment" unless it is persistent after being asked to stop or it is someone with influence or authority trying to extract some kind of quid pro quo. She is a very attractive young lady and I'm sure the unattached men closer to her age would not mind the same attention and would call it anything other than harassment.
I am looking at this from a different perspective. If you try to deal with this situation by yourself, is there any chance that she could become angry at being jilted, and then file a harassment charge against you?
I have a safety net and I won't be alone if I have to confront her directly. I am out of the office most of this week but plan on addressing it when everyone is back from the holidays. I have a rock solid reputation that I have carefully built that will afford some protection and Alice's current direct supervisor is a woman I have partnered with often on different corporate initiatives and has helped me navigate some tough conversations with other millennial women. There are a few other steps I've taken to protect myself that I won't share here but I am doing some serious CYA to keep this from blowing up in my face.
The one thing I want to prevent is having her simply lose her job. I have another autistic employee who has shared his stories about trouble at past employers, bullying, and other struggles. He and I work very well together but his stories haunt me. I can tell you that everytime someone gets fired, right or wrong, there is a chance their career will be ended. With less than a year of experience and being autistic I am not ready to potentially doom this young lady. At the same time I have dealt with numerous tough calls in my career and if it comes down to her job or protecting my livelihood I am only willing to go so far for her.