I cherish each and every one of my friends, and am thankful that I am able to interact with them productively. On two separate occasions, talking with two different friends (both of whom, as far as I can tell are neurotypicals) we were discussing something serious (my social awkwardness in particular, and how to get by in social situations) I casually admitted that I have Asperger's syndrome,and prefaced it with the disclaimer that "I hope you don't judge me for this, but..."
With both of them, I got the same response, which was something to the effect of "I could tell", or "I gathered that by now". (Don't worry, I still talk to these friends on a regular basis and my relationships with them haven't been damaged in the slightest by this little 'revelation', as far as I can tell.)
Looking back, I'm not exactly sure what to make of this. It is a classic aspie characteristic that the meanings of words fly over our heads sometimes, and I know I that I take it a step further and have a tendency to 'read between the lines' and agonize over what was implied.
My first thought that popped up in my head was that I was surprised they know what AS is, but then again I feel that psychological conditions are gaining more mainstream awareness - for better or for worse. I have a couple of possible interpretations of this response:
First of all, am I really that much of a social gadfly that my behaviors and speech would suggest that I have Asperger's? Is it really that obvious? I mean, I'll admit that one of my pitfalls is that I'm a little myopic; I can't always see outside myself. I have to sometimes keep myself in check to ensure that I can at least barely blend in with the crowd, for example, checking how I walk, that I'm not moving around too much in place, that I'm not making weird vocalizations. This thought process had me feeling a little self-conscious and embarrassed.
Another is that they realize that I'm not consistent with the norm, and maybe they think that's fine. Maybe they have at least a somewhat educated view on Asperger's and are aware, and know the signs of an aspie when they see one. Either way, I value that they didn't abandon me outright. Everything's good between them and myself; they're amazing friends and we see eye-to-eye on so much. I just could value some input on the matter. Maybe a neurotypical voice could contribute his or her piece on the matter.
Thanks!
With both of them, I got the same response, which was something to the effect of "I could tell", or "I gathered that by now". (Don't worry, I still talk to these friends on a regular basis and my relationships with them haven't been damaged in the slightest by this little 'revelation', as far as I can tell.)
Looking back, I'm not exactly sure what to make of this. It is a classic aspie characteristic that the meanings of words fly over our heads sometimes, and I know I that I take it a step further and have a tendency to 'read between the lines' and agonize over what was implied.
My first thought that popped up in my head was that I was surprised they know what AS is, but then again I feel that psychological conditions are gaining more mainstream awareness - for better or for worse. I have a couple of possible interpretations of this response:
First of all, am I really that much of a social gadfly that my behaviors and speech would suggest that I have Asperger's? Is it really that obvious? I mean, I'll admit that one of my pitfalls is that I'm a little myopic; I can't always see outside myself. I have to sometimes keep myself in check to ensure that I can at least barely blend in with the crowd, for example, checking how I walk, that I'm not moving around too much in place, that I'm not making weird vocalizations. This thought process had me feeling a little self-conscious and embarrassed.
Another is that they realize that I'm not consistent with the norm, and maybe they think that's fine. Maybe they have at least a somewhat educated view on Asperger's and are aware, and know the signs of an aspie when they see one. Either way, I value that they didn't abandon me outright. Everything's good between them and myself; they're amazing friends and we see eye-to-eye on so much. I just could value some input on the matter. Maybe a neurotypical voice could contribute his or her piece on the matter.
Thanks!