Daniela
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So Yesterdat, becouse I was going to have my new years eve at home, I decided that on the day time, I would do something productive, and that would bring joy to other people, so I webt to my second near city and did my thing.
Then I went to a ladys house that I know to give her a card, like a thankyou card, for new year and so.
I actualy found her on the street and she invited me to come in. And I went. I´ve new this lady, like I saw her tree times , and in one of those times , I was with an other lady (this lady lets call her L. She is realy sweet, I went to her house a lot, and shes like a granny to me. ) And so, I was okay to going on to this lady house.
Okay, I get there, shes all like get confortable, wich is normal, and she showed picures of her son, and she showed me the room where she has other stuff....and then ...she hugged me.
It was an out of the blue hug, she didnt say she wanted she didnt extended her arms...she just hugged me, and it was an intense hug... And I felt as if I was ...violated our something (edit: I changed the words becouse there was people that where feeling a litle bit unconfortable with it, I just want to clarify I did not used the word lightly. I know what I was talking about thats why I used that word, I did not wanted in anyway to ofend or ridiculize victems of sexual abuse. ), I felt so unconfortable , that I got the out of there like , realy fast.
... The thing is, I´m okay with hugs, as long as they are from some other people.
Like I think the hug shouldnt be given at that time, normal people would hug you in certain times only, like my pastor, like for me , hes my dad, so I like hes hugs, but he allways asks for a hug, our he just calls my name and strech hes arms out, but this are in specific moments that are apropriate for hugs, like when he sees me for the first time, our when hes about to leave our something. Its diferent.
SO...I gess my questions are, Have you ever felt like me when hugged ? And how do you feel about hugs ?
Thank you !
Then I went to a ladys house that I know to give her a card, like a thankyou card, for new year and so.
I actualy found her on the street and she invited me to come in. And I went. I´ve new this lady, like I saw her tree times , and in one of those times , I was with an other lady (this lady lets call her L. She is realy sweet, I went to her house a lot, and shes like a granny to me. ) And so, I was okay to going on to this lady house.
Okay, I get there, shes all like get confortable, wich is normal, and she showed picures of her son, and she showed me the room where she has other stuff....and then ...she hugged me.
It was an out of the blue hug, she didnt say she wanted she didnt extended her arms...she just hugged me, and it was an intense hug... And I felt as if I was ...violated our something (edit: I changed the words becouse there was people that where feeling a litle bit unconfortable with it, I just want to clarify I did not used the word lightly. I know what I was talking about thats why I used that word, I did not wanted in anyway to ofend or ridiculize victems of sexual abuse. ), I felt so unconfortable , that I got the out of there like , realy fast.
... The thing is, I´m okay with hugs, as long as they are from some other people.
Like I think the hug shouldnt be given at that time, normal people would hug you in certain times only, like my pastor, like for me , hes my dad, so I like hes hugs, but he allways asks for a hug, our he just calls my name and strech hes arms out, but this are in specific moments that are apropriate for hugs, like when he sees me for the first time, our when hes about to leave our something. Its diferent.
SO...I gess my questions are, Have you ever felt like me when hugged ? And how do you feel about hugs ?
Thank you !
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