A little backstory on my ex.
Before me she had been in two relationships. One guy had severe ADHD and one of them manipulated her sexually and mentally in her own words. I was her third boyfriend and she got diagnosed the year we met. She told me several times she had never felt so safe and understood then when she was with me. We had the same energy level compared to the ADHD guy. And I wasn't as needy and clingy as the manipulative guy. We both fit like a hand in a glove.
A little backstory on our relationship.
We dated for 1.5 years. Our needs are almost exactly the same. We both don't really crave eachothers company for more than a few days and then we go back to our ''normal'' life. When we were together we both liked doing our own thing while watching netflix shows. She would also knit while I was playing video games. We both don't really like to talk and prefer being alone. Both introverted. Everything was going really well.
Now here's the issue. We broke up because she thought the only thing I wanted in the relationship was sex. She said she felt pressured to sleep with me in the end. It was great in the begining, but I understand that sex fades over the course of a relationship. I'm not sure why she felt this way, I never got to explain to her before we broke up that it is not the only reason we are together and that I enjoy so much more than sex. And now I fear I've lost my chance. I tried typing to her a week after the breakup explaining. She wanted to meet and talk at first but then she changed her mind a few days later and said we both had different needs and we both have to move on and do what's best for us both. I don't want to push her any further but I feel like we could talk it out since I know she loved me and I never got to explain to her that It's not the end of the world for me if we don't have sex all the time. The breakup was mutual at first but now it feels like she's the one who broke up with me, even though she loved me more than anything and we really had no issues whatsoever except she felt pressured by the sex. I'm thinking it has something to do with her past abusive boyfriend.
anyways... what do I do? Do I type her again? Do I wait? I feel like she made the wrong decision based on her past relationships and missunderstandings in our relationship but I'm afraid if I type to her and try to explain I'll push her away even more. Plus I'm probably already out of her daily routine and she has probably forgotten about our relationship altogether. Do I wait a few more weeks or months?
Thanks.
Before me she had been in two relationships. One guy had severe ADHD and one of them manipulated her sexually and mentally in her own words. I was her third boyfriend and she got diagnosed the year we met. She told me several times she had never felt so safe and understood then when she was with me. We had the same energy level compared to the ADHD guy. And I wasn't as needy and clingy as the manipulative guy. We both fit like a hand in a glove.
A little backstory on our relationship.
We dated for 1.5 years. Our needs are almost exactly the same. We both don't really crave eachothers company for more than a few days and then we go back to our ''normal'' life. When we were together we both liked doing our own thing while watching netflix shows. She would also knit while I was playing video games. We both don't really like to talk and prefer being alone. Both introverted. Everything was going really well.
Now here's the issue. We broke up because she thought the only thing I wanted in the relationship was sex. She said she felt pressured to sleep with me in the end. It was great in the begining, but I understand that sex fades over the course of a relationship. I'm not sure why she felt this way, I never got to explain to her before we broke up that it is not the only reason we are together and that I enjoy so much more than sex. And now I fear I've lost my chance. I tried typing to her a week after the breakup explaining. She wanted to meet and talk at first but then she changed her mind a few days later and said we both had different needs and we both have to move on and do what's best for us both. I don't want to push her any further but I feel like we could talk it out since I know she loved me and I never got to explain to her that It's not the end of the world for me if we don't have sex all the time. The breakup was mutual at first but now it feels like she's the one who broke up with me, even though she loved me more than anything and we really had no issues whatsoever except she felt pressured by the sex. I'm thinking it has something to do with her past abusive boyfriend.
anyways... what do I do? Do I type her again? Do I wait? I feel like she made the wrong decision based on her past relationships and missunderstandings in our relationship but I'm afraid if I type to her and try to explain I'll push her away even more. Plus I'm probably already out of her daily routine and she has probably forgotten about our relationship altogether. Do I wait a few more weeks or months?
Thanks.