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Help me make a decision

"Possession of material riches without inner peace is like dying of thirst while bathing in a lake" - Yogananda
Rest assured, you are priceless as you are and do not need outside input to realize it.
 
lostinlife said:
But the pain I feel when I see my bullies live a better life than me is unbearable. One of my bullies who called me shorty all the time, is now around 6'4", very popular and has already immigrated to usa with a software engineering degree. He is making mega money now while I am drowning in misery. He even went as far as to send me a friend request on fb! How dare HE!

Another guy has a multi millionaire dad and he posts all these pics on fb with his expensive cars, going to expensive restaurants with friends. Stuff like that makes my blood boil. Karma is bs. I can't help but think about getting revenge in one way or another. But that's not possible with my poverty and lack of social power.
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Jealousy is a pretty bad thing. Rather than look at it from "He's tall and I'm short and that isn't fair". Look at it like "He emigrated to a wealthier nation and I want to do the same, so I know it's possible". Seriously don't pick USA if you have a choice, but it's better to look at it from that way.

Elliot Rodger had a multi-millionaire dad. He posted pictures of expensive cars and stuff. Now look where he is. You can't judge things looking from the outside in. His dad can go bankrupt tomorrow.

Apart from that, these people making your blood boil is extremely helpful since now you have the motivation to make something of your life. So make a plan, research how to attain what you want and forget about losers posting their fake life on the internet as by that point it adds stress that you don't need.

Lastly, a big secret: Life isn't fair. The universe doesn't care about you, me or anyone else that's here. Throwing a temper tantrum because "I'm a good person, why can't I get what I want when assholes get everything" is pointless because the universe doesn't care. It's just there and the best part about it is that if it wasn't you wouldn't be able to throw temper tantrums in the first place.

So admire those that are successful and attempt to learn from them, see what they do right. Realize what they do wrong. Do all the right things and avoid the wrong ones.
 
AloneNotLonely said:
Jealousy is a pretty bad thing. Rather than look at it from "He's tall and I'm short and that isn't fair". Look at it like "He emigrated to a wealthier nation and I want to do the same, so I know it's possible". Seriously don't pick USA if you have a choice, but it's better to look at it from that way.

Elliot Rodger had a multi-millionaire dad. He posted pictures of expensive cars and stuff. Now look where he is. You can't judge things looking from the outside in. His dad can go bankrupt tomorrow.

Apart from that, these people making your blood boil is extremely helpful since now you have the motivation to make something of your life. So make a plan, research how to attain what you want and forget about losers posting their fake life on the internet as by that point it adds stress that you don't need.

Lastly, a big secret: Life isn't fair. The universe doesn't care about you, me or anyone else that's here. Throwing a temper tantrum because "I'm a good person, why can't I get what I want when assholes get everything" is pointless because the universe doesn't care. It's just there and the best part about it is that if it wasn't you wouldn't be able to throw temper tantrums in the first place.

So admire those that are successful and attempt to learn from them, see what they do right. Realize what they do wrong. Do all the right things and avoid the wrong ones.
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I appreciate your advice, your words make sense.

But I am in a position where I am unable to do anything at all. To progress in any aspect of my life I need a big boost in my social skills but that isn't happening.

My dad is in a bad condition, he is sick with multiple diseases and I am afraid he is going to die pretty soon. I don't know how I will handle his business work with no skill or experience. Whatever God is up there, please save my ass.
 
If he has his own business and it's successful you could start learning about it today.

It's all about what pays more... his business or a regular job.
 
lostinlife said:
I don't know how I will handle his business work with no skill or experienc
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How much does the business make annually?

Write down a list for what you need to know.

If your dad is sick, who is running the business now?

Can he speak? Will he teach you?

You seem to catastrophize a lot.

Break things down into small bits.

You're more like ' I need to learn EVERYTHING'

When you start your process, learning little by little, over a long time.

But you know this? Or not?
 
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