Hi there. I am a 32yo self diagnosed Aspergirl – which I discovered with the help of a counselor that I started seeing in the middle of 2020. So, like many here, I came to this fairly late.
I went looking for counseling because of a shattering breakup; I had a sense that there were patterns of abuse in my past / present relationships. I was not expecting that thread to lead me to Aspergers. At first it seemed “too good to be true”. More and more of my story (particularly the knotted parts I’d never been able to make sense of) seemed to fall into my hands in light of the diagnosis. It offered a new perspective on why I had such trouble naming my emotions, why identifying certain behaviors in others – like lying, manipulation, or even sarcasm – presented a challenge etc etc
That relief was short lived – the way I felt about Apergers was easily lost in the way most everyone else I told seemed to feel about it. Sure I had new language to explain what goes on inside, but translating it to the people who should care has been an uphill battle. Classic.
But even with all the studying (books read, podcasts listened to etc) I’m still looking for more insight into my own self - especially as it relates to supporting healthy relationships. Several of the existing threads on this forum have already convinced me that I’m in the right place. Looking forward to whatever comes of this.
P.s. The 27th book of the Nancy Drew series is The Secret of the Wooden Lady. Seemed appropriate in a tongue in cheek kinda way.
I went looking for counseling because of a shattering breakup; I had a sense that there were patterns of abuse in my past / present relationships. I was not expecting that thread to lead me to Aspergers. At first it seemed “too good to be true”. More and more of my story (particularly the knotted parts I’d never been able to make sense of) seemed to fall into my hands in light of the diagnosis. It offered a new perspective on why I had such trouble naming my emotions, why identifying certain behaviors in others – like lying, manipulation, or even sarcasm – presented a challenge etc etc
That relief was short lived – the way I felt about Apergers was easily lost in the way most everyone else I told seemed to feel about it. Sure I had new language to explain what goes on inside, but translating it to the people who should care has been an uphill battle. Classic.
But even with all the studying (books read, podcasts listened to etc) I’m still looking for more insight into my own self - especially as it relates to supporting healthy relationships. Several of the existing threads on this forum have already convinced me that I’m in the right place. Looking forward to whatever comes of this.
P.s. The 27th book of the Nancy Drew series is The Secret of the Wooden Lady. Seemed appropriate in a tongue in cheek kinda way.