keebles
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My main reason for coming here was to finally have a place where people could understand me and I could relate to others...something I don't have in my day to day. I've gone the professional help route and they just seemed to make matters worse. They seem to know enough to diagnose me (I did have to fight a bit for it at first though), but then all they want to do is drug me up and expect that to help.
Relationship-wise, I have been married once and I couldn't hack it. But I can relate to those on this forum who are younger and want a romantic relationship...I was that way...once. It's hard to be in your mid 20's and to have never had a relationship. It's why I ended up married to the wrong person in the first place...I jumped on the first one that came along. In my surrounding NT world you are "trained" (especially if you are a girl) to want marriage, kids, and a soccer-mom kind of life, so I did. Thankfully, I couldn't get pregnant, so at least I dodged that bullet because I know I would have been a horrible parent (and where would I put all my Disney stuff if my spare bedroom housed a kid?).
Part of me wants a romantic relationship again, but I just have to remind myself that I would have to share my space, my time, my stuff, and break my routine (as you do in relationships), and that settles it. Besides, I tend to attract the wrong sort of person anyway, so better safe than sorry. Not once have I met someone since my divorce that has showed interest in me (that I've noticed...which I'm told is one of my issues), so there is no problem there. If it's meant to happen, Prince Charming will find a way to get even me to notice...that's my theory anyway. If not, I'm content in my life as is.
I have had a long-term job, but it's neither high paying or rewarding...my lack of education sees to that. I stay here because of comfort level that comes with being here since practically birth (my mother worked here when I was a baby) and they let me stay, despite my issues, because they can pay me a lot less than my educated counterparts (I work in IT and I'm self-taught). I'd like to go back to school and finish a degree (in something), but that would open a whole new can of worms both socially and financially that I can't handle, at least not now. I keep saying I'm going to go back, but no action on that front as of yet. Besides, have to decide on a major first and I can't seem to focus on a career path long enough to study for it. Despite my "gift" with computers, I wouldn't want to go to school for it (college is what ruined my "gift" with art...I started as a graphic design major and quickly lost my taste for art, something I had done my entire life), and I don't live in an area with a plethora of degree options anyway, so it's slim pickins' for an Asper.
About the only thing that I've found unrelatable with others on this forum is the fact that most seem to be good with money and I'm horrible with it. Granted, I pay my bills on time and I keep a roof over my head, but I do live paycheck to paycheck and there is no wiggle room. I don't know if I can chalk that up to my ASD or OCD, but my Disney obsession takes a ton of money to keep happy (that and my general lack of spending control) and I have a lot of credit card debt because of it. I see something, I want it, I buy it, I'm happy...for the moment, until something new comes along that I just HAVE to have.
Well, the money thing and the fact that everyone else seems to be really good at very short answer posts and I tend to write War and Peace, but that might be a side-effect of the blog world. Overall though, I'd say that joining this forum has made me feel a lot better about my diagnosis and myself, so I'm definitely happy to be here!
Relationship-wise, I have been married once and I couldn't hack it. But I can relate to those on this forum who are younger and want a romantic relationship...I was that way...once. It's hard to be in your mid 20's and to have never had a relationship. It's why I ended up married to the wrong person in the first place...I jumped on the first one that came along. In my surrounding NT world you are "trained" (especially if you are a girl) to want marriage, kids, and a soccer-mom kind of life, so I did. Thankfully, I couldn't get pregnant, so at least I dodged that bullet because I know I would have been a horrible parent (and where would I put all my Disney stuff if my spare bedroom housed a kid?).
Part of me wants a romantic relationship again, but I just have to remind myself that I would have to share my space, my time, my stuff, and break my routine (as you do in relationships), and that settles it. Besides, I tend to attract the wrong sort of person anyway, so better safe than sorry. Not once have I met someone since my divorce that has showed interest in me (that I've noticed...which I'm told is one of my issues), so there is no problem there. If it's meant to happen, Prince Charming will find a way to get even me to notice...that's my theory anyway. If not, I'm content in my life as is.
I have had a long-term job, but it's neither high paying or rewarding...my lack of education sees to that. I stay here because of comfort level that comes with being here since practically birth (my mother worked here when I was a baby) and they let me stay, despite my issues, because they can pay me a lot less than my educated counterparts (I work in IT and I'm self-taught). I'd like to go back to school and finish a degree (in something), but that would open a whole new can of worms both socially and financially that I can't handle, at least not now. I keep saying I'm going to go back, but no action on that front as of yet. Besides, have to decide on a major first and I can't seem to focus on a career path long enough to study for it. Despite my "gift" with computers, I wouldn't want to go to school for it (college is what ruined my "gift" with art...I started as a graphic design major and quickly lost my taste for art, something I had done my entire life), and I don't live in an area with a plethora of degree options anyway, so it's slim pickins' for an Asper.
About the only thing that I've found unrelatable with others on this forum is the fact that most seem to be good with money and I'm horrible with it. Granted, I pay my bills on time and I keep a roof over my head, but I do live paycheck to paycheck and there is no wiggle room. I don't know if I can chalk that up to my ASD or OCD, but my Disney obsession takes a ton of money to keep happy (that and my general lack of spending control) and I have a lot of credit card debt because of it. I see something, I want it, I buy it, I'm happy...for the moment, until something new comes along that I just HAVE to have.
Well, the money thing and the fact that everyone else seems to be really good at very short answer posts and I tend to write War and Peace, but that might be a side-effect of the blog world. Overall though, I'd say that joining this forum has made me feel a lot better about my diagnosis and myself, so I'm definitely happy to be here!