RMX07
They/He
While my ASD diagnosis journey is just beginning, I do have a question that’s been bothering me quite a bit. I plan to ask my psychologist at my next appointment, but until then... I thought I’d also ask here.
First, a bit of backstory. I’m 33/F and have just received an informal diagnosis by a clinical psychologist who specialises in adult autism (formal diagnosis is expensive here so I’m still weighing up my options for that). As far as she’s concerned, it’s quite apparent that I’d be diagnosed ASD level 1 if I went through with a formal diagnosis, to the point where she’s comfortable writing a letter to my GP with this information for future health purposes, should I decide I don’t need a formal diagnosis.
When I finally plucked up the courage to tell my parents recently, my Dad wasn’t overly surprised and actually related to what I was saying (he has many ASD/Asperger’s traits but no diagnosis, and my Mum has even said as much in a semi-joking manner). However, my Mum didn’t believe me, was very dismissive, laughed at me, and refused my invitation to send her more info about how ASD presents in girls and women so she could learn about it. She simply wasn’t interested and said that I couldn’t possible have autism because there was nothing in my early development that indicated a problem.
The thing is, I know for sure there was at least one thing because she’s told me as much: I was a very early reader, starting to read at 18 months and able to read by age 3. She said I was a ‘born reader’ and I think that made her very proud. I doubt she’s aware of the connection between hyperlexia and autism.
My question is, do there need to be developmental delays of any kind in young children for there to be a diagnosis of ASD? My understanding is that there doesn’t, but I’m certainly not an expert and would like some information. Also, if an expert knows what to look for, will they always find something that indicates autism in a young child on the spectrum? Is it possible for a child to show no signs/symptoms until kindergarten/primary school?
I also understand that when I was a child (born in 1985), experts were still learning what to look for, especially in girls, meaning that whatever it was, it could have been missed by both parents and professionals (this seems the most likely scenario to me). But it still bothers me that my Mum says, with absolutely certainty, that there was nothing.
Of course, as I got a little older—from around age 7 or so—I know there were many indicators of ASD (repetitive behaviours, obsessive interests, unusual social behaviours, sensory issues, etc) because I remember them myself and we have some of them recorded on video by that point. But prior to that, I was just too young to remember and can only rely on my Mum’s account of things. I was hoping she could help me put the puzzle pieces together, but it doesn’t look like that will be happening.
Any facts/thoughts/opinions/advice appreciated.
First, a bit of backstory. I’m 33/F and have just received an informal diagnosis by a clinical psychologist who specialises in adult autism (formal diagnosis is expensive here so I’m still weighing up my options for that). As far as she’s concerned, it’s quite apparent that I’d be diagnosed ASD level 1 if I went through with a formal diagnosis, to the point where she’s comfortable writing a letter to my GP with this information for future health purposes, should I decide I don’t need a formal diagnosis.
When I finally plucked up the courage to tell my parents recently, my Dad wasn’t overly surprised and actually related to what I was saying (he has many ASD/Asperger’s traits but no diagnosis, and my Mum has even said as much in a semi-joking manner). However, my Mum didn’t believe me, was very dismissive, laughed at me, and refused my invitation to send her more info about how ASD presents in girls and women so she could learn about it. She simply wasn’t interested and said that I couldn’t possible have autism because there was nothing in my early development that indicated a problem.
The thing is, I know for sure there was at least one thing because she’s told me as much: I was a very early reader, starting to read at 18 months and able to read by age 3. She said I was a ‘born reader’ and I think that made her very proud. I doubt she’s aware of the connection between hyperlexia and autism.
My question is, do there need to be developmental delays of any kind in young children for there to be a diagnosis of ASD? My understanding is that there doesn’t, but I’m certainly not an expert and would like some information. Also, if an expert knows what to look for, will they always find something that indicates autism in a young child on the spectrum? Is it possible for a child to show no signs/symptoms until kindergarten/primary school?
I also understand that when I was a child (born in 1985), experts were still learning what to look for, especially in girls, meaning that whatever it was, it could have been missed by both parents and professionals (this seems the most likely scenario to me). But it still bothers me that my Mum says, with absolutely certainty, that there was nothing.
Of course, as I got a little older—from around age 7 or so—I know there were many indicators of ASD (repetitive behaviours, obsessive interests, unusual social behaviours, sensory issues, etc) because I remember them myself and we have some of them recorded on video by that point. But prior to that, I was just too young to remember and can only rely on my Mum’s account of things. I was hoping she could help me put the puzzle pieces together, but it doesn’t look like that will be happening.
Any facts/thoughts/opinions/advice appreciated.