Two days ago, my partner of 20 years broke up with me. Said it was due to my autism, specifically the way I communicate in social situations (talk over people or unable to read between the lines and understand what they are really saying or switching off when too many people are talking at once) and because I don't travel a lot or want to always do outside activities all the time. Said she was unhappy for years but this was not communicated to me in a way that I understood and she just internalised all this for years.
She said I am unable to change and that she does not want me to change and yet cannot stay with me unless I change. I am totally confused and do not understand this.
Ironically it was her who first made me aware that I may be autistic. So I thought she had come to accept my limitations. I never stopped her from travelling or going anywhere with her friends or doing anything she wanted to do.
She is also my best friend and we are working towards at least being friends in the future.
I am devastated and it was the worst day of my life. I thought this was the forever one. I am lost and having meltdowns and shutdowns and cannot sleep. I am extremely lonely. I don't know how to get through this.
Anyone had anything similar and how did you get through it?
She said I am unable to change and that she does not want me to change and yet cannot stay with me unless I change. I am totally confused and do not understand this.
Ironically it was her who first made me aware that I may be autistic. So I thought she had come to accept my limitations. I never stopped her from travelling or going anywhere with her friends or doing anything she wanted to do.
She is also my best friend and we are working towards at least being friends in the future.
I am devastated and it was the worst day of my life. I thought this was the forever one. I am lost and having meltdowns and shutdowns and cannot sleep. I am extremely lonely. I don't know how to get through this.
Anyone had anything similar and how did you get through it?