Jleger91
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This was brought up while I was visiting my counselor. I said that I have trouble getting extremely agitated over all the little things and that sometimes I hit the dogs. I regret it immediately afterwards but it happens. Defense Mode it's called, right? My counselor told me about a coping device for defense mode called DEACTIVATE.
It's a form of positive self-talk that calms the person out of that anger and into positive thinking, and I do overthinking a lot so this is a tool that makes overthinking a good thing, and it's good that it's a good thing.
You're supposed to spell out each letter of the word DEACTIVATE and consider the meaning of the word that the letter stands for.
D - Diffuse negative energy so that you dont explode
E - Energy. There is good energy and bad energy. Which will we choose?
A - There is a positive and negative action just like there are good and bad energies. For example, hitting the dog is a bad action. Petting the dog is what a good person would do.
C - Consequences for every action. What will happen if I hit the dog? Well, the dog will be hurt and scared, and be afraid of me, and I'd feel bad and tell at myself for the rest of the day. And someone would have something to say about it. However, if I pet the dog, people call me a good kid and the dogs tail is wagging - I've made a friend.
T - Stop and think to diffuse. I should use good energy and not bad energy.
I - Initialize positive thinking. I'm not going to think bad things because I get upset. Let's think of how we're not going to think bad - this is a good thought.
V - Victory for celebration. We are thinking positive and not negative, and we consequently avoided exploding in anger. YES!!
A - Action next action is a good action because it is not a bad action
T - Time/Thanksgiving - Thanks for spending the time to think our way through this.
E - Energy. Look at that positive energy. You did good and this positive energy is your reward. Let's keep being positive.
It's a form of positive self-talk that calms the person out of that anger and into positive thinking, and I do overthinking a lot so this is a tool that makes overthinking a good thing, and it's good that it's a good thing.
You're supposed to spell out each letter of the word DEACTIVATE and consider the meaning of the word that the letter stands for.
D - Diffuse negative energy so that you dont explode
E - Energy. There is good energy and bad energy. Which will we choose?
A - There is a positive and negative action just like there are good and bad energies. For example, hitting the dog is a bad action. Petting the dog is what a good person would do.
C - Consequences for every action. What will happen if I hit the dog? Well, the dog will be hurt and scared, and be afraid of me, and I'd feel bad and tell at myself for the rest of the day. And someone would have something to say about it. However, if I pet the dog, people call me a good kid and the dogs tail is wagging - I've made a friend.
T - Stop and think to diffuse. I should use good energy and not bad energy.
I - Initialize positive thinking. I'm not going to think bad things because I get upset. Let's think of how we're not going to think bad - this is a good thought.
V - Victory for celebration. We are thinking positive and not negative, and we consequently avoided exploding in anger. YES!!
A - Action next action is a good action because it is not a bad action
T - Time/Thanksgiving - Thanks for spending the time to think our way through this.
E - Energy. Look at that positive energy. You did good and this positive energy is your reward. Let's keep being positive.
