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Username: Eddie Gillenardo
Gender: male
Age: 24
Sexuality: straight
Location: Salisbury, MD.
Religion: I am very much a Christian and that is very important to me.
Politics: I don't really vote although I should
Philosophy: do to others as you would have them do to you
Obsessions/Interests: I play video games, write sermons and devotionals, and play Yu-Gi-Oh which I thoroughly enjoy
Desired Partner Characteristics: I want a young lady who is devoted to God, is respectful, is modest in the way she dresses and presents herself. I want her to have a positive attitude, knows how to have a good time but also knows when its time to get serious.
Self-Description: I am a very laid back person. I tend to be quiet a lot of the time but I eventually open up. I'm 5'9 1/2" with blue eyes and I'm also overweight which needs to change. And I wear glasses.
 
Username: David Larson

Gender: Male

Age: 25

Sexuality: Straight

Location: Detroit Lakes, MN (live) Fargo, ND (work)

Religion: Non-denominational Christian

Politics: Progressive

Philosophy: Pragmatism above all with influences from Utilitarianism, Hedonism, and Aristippianism

Obsessions/Interests: Psychology and to a lesser extent pharmacology. I also just love to learn; thank God for Google. I do some writing on occasion, and I journal my thoughts, feelings, and ideas for later reflection. Yes, that means I have a diary, I hide it under my bed to keep it secret from everyone :) Other than that I read, exercise, and generally try to keep busy, failing which I watch TV and play video games.

Desired Partner Characteristics: Someone I can trust, someone real, someone who's been through some hard times and knows/has what it takes to rise above. Intelligence is a plus, but keep in mind there are a lot of different ways to be smart. I suppose what I'm looking for is someone who wants to take on the world with me; power through the challenges, revel in the triumphs, and take things a day at a time with one eye on tomorrow.

Self-Description: Physically, I'm 6'2" and 220 lbs. But enough about my corporeal form, here's some substance: I work a lot; I work for a non-profit that employs the best of the best of those on the autism spectrum for specialized work. I'm told I have a good sense of humor, if not a little dry. As far as coping with our disorder goes, I'm very flexible. I can handle quite a lot; even extended conversation I can take or leave. I'm very assertive and direct; I have very little patience for beating around the bush, even though I'm very patient in general. Other words that have been used to describe me include loyal, helpful, caring, dutiful, responsible, generous, trustworthy, and charismatic. So yeah, there's my attempt to summarize all that is me in a paragraph, and but for the grace of God go I.

Wow, although I'm not in USA, but I think we can be friends here. :)
 
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Username: edwardstpowell
Real Name: Edward Powell
Gender: Male
Age: 21
Sexuality: Straight - Heterosexual
Location: United Kingdom (UK)
Religion: Christian, Church of England
Politics: Labour Party (UK)
Philosophy: Life is certainly worth living. There are many different people in the world. Life is full of so much enjoyment and oppotunities. Everyone is normal in their own way.
Obsessions/Interests: Going Abroad, Trains, Travel, Photography, Arts and Crafts, Media/Television, ICT, Geography, Geneaology and Independent Travel.
Desired Partner Characteristics: Friendly, Mature, Be equal to one another, share responsibilities, love one another, want to eventually settle down, marry and start a family in the future, charitable and has same religious beliefs.
Self-Description: Friendly, More or less mature, 21 years old, knowledgable, athletic build, a good outlook and feelings about life, good self confidence and esteem, funny and talkative.
Other Information: I currently wear glasses, I am slightly overweight (86kg), but not obese and I am 177cm (1.77m) tall.
 
Username: Friend4any1 (AKA Sean Lynott)

Gender: Male

Age: 32

Sexuality: Heterosexual

Location: Boise, Idaho, USA

Religion: Basic observing Christian (I was a member of a Methodist church when I was a boy)

Politics: Nothing to do with me (Of course, I don’t encourage conservative views)

Philosophy: Indescribable

Obsessions/Interests: Computers (and computer-like devices), Science fiction, Superhero movies/stories, Fantasy stories, Adventure stories, talking animal stories, cartoons, music (all except Heavy Metal), veganism and Christmas.

Desired partner characteristics: Approachability, cheer, kindness, generosity, honesty, intelligence, affection, mellowness, and (personally I would like) prettiness.

Self-Description: I'm a man who can feel important and unimportant at the same time. I don't know what God or Heaven to believe in, but I believe in whatever or whoever I can.

Oh, and to get something out the way, my lifestyle can't include being a father or having pets.

My mom was a librarian; she taught me to salute the library business. My dad has a knack with computers for his age; he taught me computer smarts beyond the common folk.

I’m a vegan, and I think these services should stop asking me about favorite games, (computer or otherwise) my Twitter page, et cetera; I’m only into Pandora Radio (free) and Audible, the audiobook website, nothing else! I’ve had experience with Netflix and Amazon Prime to name a few, but I’ve decided I’m content with my share.

I sing baritone for a local choir and I have the skills for writing and voices.
 
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Username: Hartley
Gender: male
Age: 22
Sexuality: straight
Location: Wellington
Religion: Christianity
Politics: Left-wing socialist, anti imperialist
Philosophy: live like theres no tomorrow
Obsessions/Interests: Music, politics ,documentaries, Lions...
Desired Partner Characteristics: Someone genuine and real
Self-Description: I am really nice and friendly towards most earthlings
 
Fun! I'll play.

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Gender: f
Age: 32
Sexuality: hetero
Location: Southern California
Religion: spiritual agnostic
Politics: not interested
Philosophy:
Obsessions/Interests: sewing, photography, doing fun stuff outside
Desired Partner Characteristics: I just want someone who has time for a relationship, wants to do stuff outside, intelligent, thoughtful, doesn't do drugs or drink a lot and is adventurous. I tend to connect best with other aspies but usually prefer dating nt's (yes, barking up the wrong tree here but hey you never know!)
Self-Description: happy, self employed, loves dogs and camping.
 
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Username:
Mathalamus
Gender: Male
Age: 25
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Location: Calgary, Alberta, Canada
Religion: Atheist
Politics: Strongly Liberal.
Philosophy: Absolute Control of Self, Laissez faire for other people. (within reason)
Obsessions/Interests: History, especially that of the Eastern Roman Empire, WWII, Titanic, Star trek, some other things.
Desired Partner Characteristics: Must be kind and intelligent. obviously. open to hugs. must be cute to me. (note, could mean just about anything.)
Self-Description: I am Matthew, a fanatically centralized person, who will always try to help other people. mainly female. i have a non judgement policy in place, and i tend to put other people above myself.

i have my own issues, of course, but they usually do not do anything serious. and yes, i am very, very strange. theres a logic to it, though.
 
Username: chiefersis
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Gender: male
Age:25
Sexuality: heterosexual
Body type: slim
Height: 5'11"
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Religion: Agnostic Atheist(but I can agree to disagree.)
Politics: felt tha Bern
Philosophy: I'm not a philosopher, but someone said "let go, or be dragged!" I think that's a good one to adapt.
Obsessions/Inrtrests: video games, Movies, Tv Shows, Psychology, History( Roman Empire related/ age of colonization/British Empire related/ Cold war related/ WW II), I like out doors and hiking a lot as well, I also maintain a certain level of exercise daily.
Desired partner characteristics: smart/intelligent be tolarant of me, my act isn't that together at the moment if you don't mind a possible man child; be sexual to a certain degree, like cuddles and hugs, 420 friendly.
Self-Description: My name is Nima, I'm a weirdo. I was born in LA but I grew up in Iran up until I was 17 when I came here. I'm a bit lazy, I blame a lot of it on my Asperger's though and I'm not totally incorrect to do so. I watch lots of movies and TV shows, love nature and hiking, 420 friendly, do workout daily or by daily.
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I like to do things and activities that helps towards higher functionality and I think all a spies should to a certain degree.
 
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Username: Anthony Nasti
Gender: Male
Age: 25
Sexuality: Male
Location: New York
Religion: Roman Catholic
Politics: Liberal Democrat, strongly in favor of the democratic socialist system Bernie Sanders promoted.
Philosophy: Do Unto Others As You Would Unto Yourself.
Obsessions/Interests: Music, Movies, Running. All things pop culture. Writing, specifically making lists.
Desired Partner Characteristics: A great sense of humor, similar interests and quirks, honesty, loyalty, compassion. Must be on the introverted sides while still having an outgoing side.
Self-Description: Oof. I always have a hard time with this. I'm a bit complicated, as I tend to shift between easy going and uptight. I'm usually very quiet but open up in the right setting. My defining characteristics would be passionate, genuine and occasionally arrogant [which I'm working on].
 
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Username: Vertex
Gender: Male
Age: 21, as of this month
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Location: California, SF Bay Area
Religion: Agnostic
Politics: Liberal Democrat

Philosophy: I believe in being able to pursue your interests freely. I also believe in equality, common courtesy, loyalty to your family/loved ones, as well as empathy and compassion for people you don't know personally. Basically, don't be a dick.

Obsessions/Interests: Sci-Fi, Comics, Video Games, Anime, Movies, Reading. To list specific examples, I'm a fan of Star Trek, Star Wars, Firefly, Marvel comics & the Marvel Cinematic Universe, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, open world RPGs such as Skyrim, Death Note, One Punch Man, Harry Potter, and Dresden Files. I'm also interested in History, Psychology, and Language. I write stories too.

Desired Partner Characteristics: Someone who's nice (willing to accept the fact that I'm broke) loyal (don't cheat on me) reasonably attractive (I'm not all that picky) and intelligent. (just don't "typ lik dis" ) Basically, I want someone I can talk to about mutual interests, and who wouldn't mind frequent and severe cuddling.

Self Description: I'm quiet and introverted. I prefer indoor activities, like being on the computer and watching TV, though I also enjoy long walks and traveling places. I'm open minded, patient, and not easily upset, though I do get depressed sometimes. I can be sarcastic, but I try not to be sarcastic in a mean way, only for humor. Physically, I'm half black half white, 6'7, and slim.
 
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I doubt there is anyone who will live in the same area, but

Username: Butterflux
Gender: Female
Age: 23
Sexuality: Straight
Location: Auckland , New Zealand
Religion: N/a
Politics: dont really care
Philosophy: Be a good person try to live life to the fullest.
Obsessions: health science , psychology
Desired Partner Characteristics: I dont really care about physical characteristics. I believe I am sort of demi sexual. Someone who i get along with well , can take charge of conversations as I lack the ability to continuously start conversations ( i run out of steam). Must be in Auckland.
Self-Description: Introverted kind of..socially anxious but friendly. I am open minded but struggle to see from others POV ( aspie trait). Caucasian , 5'3 attractive.
 
Username - TardyRayGun65
Gender - M
Age - 14
Location - Rowlett, TX
Religion - Christian
Politics - Conservative
Philosophy - Jesus Christ and his apostles
Interests (more like obsessions) - birdwatching, learning new things, travel, fishing, video games
Desired characteristics - Nice, caring, same values as me
Self-description - I love to watch birds, play video games, learn new things, go fishing, and go to new places. I'm pretty chill, so if you're interested, hit me up.
 
Im not ready for a relationship yet, but i might make up a profile here in the near future, so if you are that special man for Jenna...Please wait for me :p
 
Username: EllieMay
Gender: 100% Female, but clearly Tomboy
Age: 62 --- Yes, really
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Location: Along the Texas/Oklahoma Red River
Religion: Christian --- Southern Baptist
Politics: Conservative --- Republican
Philosophy: Take at least one step forward every day.
If at first you don't succeed --- try, try again.
Obsessions/Interests: Critters, orchids, rocks, construction, business, politics, . . .
Desired Partner Characteristics: #1 = Kindness. Beyond that, he needs to be able to take care of himself and not rely on me to be his Mama, maid, nurse, or meal ticket. I will not stay with someone who drinks, uses drugs, or abuses me.
Self-Description: I don't: drink, smoke, use drugs, gamble, curse, use makeup, buy expensive clothes, eat fancy food, or need a lot of help. I plan, work hard, shop clearance and resale, save, and build. I am self-diagnosed, ENTJ, and IQ 165.
 
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Username: VioletHaze_03
Gender: Female
Age: 16
Sexuality: Asexual
Location: canada (near toronto)
Religion: athiest with unitarian beliefs
Politics: peaceful conflict resolution/democracy
Philosophy: Always be kind to everyone you meet, as you don't know thier struggles. Even though people may be of a different race, gender, sexuality, level of ability, they're still just people. And lastly, Your struggles may define who you are, but they are not you.
Obsessions/interests: anime, video games, drawing, writing, rp, character creation
Desired partner characteristics: open minded/kind, able to tolerate the quirks that i bring to the relationship, a good sense of humor, honest, shares a lot of my interests. Not bothered by any of my disorders and open to support me whenever i make a mistake, and able to meet me halfway.
If you are interested, feel free to pm me!
 
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Username:
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Gender: M
Age: 20
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Location: Houston, TX
Religion: No religious beliefs.
Politics: I'm not open, politically.
Philosophy: Be honest to everyone, without intent to hurt. Lying does no good, but harm.
Obsessions/Interests: Law Enforcement, Military, Die Antwoord, Criminal Minds, Prison Break, GTA V, exercising
Desired Partner Characteristics: I can love a lot about a person, especially the unique, odd personalities a person may have, deaf, blind, I don't care. Not afraid to show affection, or tell me your feelings, whether good or bad. You must be willing to meet eventually.
Self-Description: I'm extremely nice, I like to think! I don't smoke, do drugs, or drink alcohol. I despise most of that, stuff. I have a huge interest in law enforcement, and working my way into that career path. I, a lot of the times am really confident about myself, and will try to make others feel the same about themselves. I used to be a Taekwondo instructor, it was a hard, and an odd job for someone like myself. But I did it, and faced a lot of my fears. Also, I'll think of posting a photo of myself soon? I'm 5'10 165lb and I'd say I'm somewhat attractive, with moderate acne(But I just started medication, and working at keeping my skin healthy).
 
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I don't think Aspies would go well together. Here's why:
*Although they may claim to understand each other, this may cause them to never step out of their comfort zone, socially. Isolating each other from the world.
*The relationship may not have anything new or exciting, because aspies don't like change. A neurotypical could slowly introduce an aspie to a new world.
*Since Aspies lack social skills, both people in the relationship would have trouble expressing whats in their mind.
The best combinations of people sometimes stem from those who are the complete opposite because they explore a new world and learn from each other. I can understand how frustrating it may be to find someone but its best to hold on, perhaps someone will eventually come along. Don't look for someone that's like you, but rather someone that can bring out the best in you.

This site is helpful in many respects but it does rely on a conceit (the grouping of AS people) that doesn't accurately represent the reality. The reality is one in which people have varying AS traits and they also have unique personalities. Even in an AS-AS relationship, you are dealing with different personalities - not to mention the other conditions people often live with like bipolar, anxiety, PTSD, etc.

I am a non-AS person (though not neurotypical) and the two main partners I have had jn life have been AS - but the ways in which that manifested was very different for each. Different delights/comforts and different issues. Example, one is very sensual and sexual and loves touch; the other can live without it. One is all about his routine; the other doesn't seem to have one...

So, there are no guarantees either way in the search. I think what can be gained from looking for someone here is the chance to come across someone AS or NT who is aware of AS and maybe willing to work with it (however that manifests for the person) in a relationship.
 
You disagree that both (men, women, straight or not) have their advantages and disadvantages? Really?
Yeah, sure women are more likely to be romantically pursued. But is that really the number one goal in life?
Does it outweigh the disadvantage for women of being more likely to be sexually harassed, stalked, or even raped?

(P.S. I am not saying that women or men are better than each other. I'm also not saying that people only do these things to women.)

I think that the various ways someone can get to know someone online has flattened a lot of that. The expectation might still be in het. relationships that the man will make the first move, but it seems like it would be easier when you can approach someone without the need to go through a lot of the social motions that might be difficult for some on the spectrum.
 
I think it would be helpful here if as part of the template people put not just Desired Partner Characteristics but something about their own romantic/sexual preferences and approach.

Speaking as a non-AS, it can be problematic if what you are looking for is someone who is empathetic and affectionate but you yourself are not expressive through touch or in words. It gets hard for your partner then, and they can feel neglected or unloved if there is a disconnect.

Better to let anyone reading your post know that you are more reserved in your expression and let them choose whether that's something they also like or if they present differently that they think that they can handle.

Sexual and affectional disconnects are a big deal.
 

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