Why does it seem like it’s bad that I want a loving partner?
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That is so nice that things worked out for you. If one never takes a chance the outcome is pre-ordained.That's how it approached my future wife knocked on her bedroom door in my rooming house, I ran asked if she would be willing to accompany me in watching my cousin playing in a band in bar. I quess you could call that a first date.
When she first moved in she was putting together a Ikea dresser. So I just helped her put it together before her parents left after dropping off her stuff, I got to know her a bit.
Yes! It happened when I expected nothing but a friendly transaction and so was in a more relaxed state about our interactions. She had such a lovely phone voice that I would call her about backpacking gear and getting in shape for trail maintenance just to hear her. Soon I didn't need any pretext and we would just talk.The trick is I was not desperate, just shopping around ready to settle down large 3 story Victorian style house with
a number of female tenants. I would socialize with the upstairs people sort of a commune like atmosphere. The main floor was private for us landlords, my brother and a close friend.
As I have pointed out, life will not gift you with a partner for a relationship, but you need to be prepared for chance opportunity. You need to:I am told I shouldn’t look for a partner because apparently one is supposed to come into your life when you aren’t looking. To me, that’s like not seeking out karate practice but somehow you’ll learn it.
Howso? Those describing their relationships just did not blunder into them. There were many small steps along the way where we were prepared for what seemed like chance opportunity. A decade earlier and I would have been unprepared to recognize an opportunity, much less knowing how to act and respond.This is really starting to sound like “Haha, Markness is a loser!” to me.
Even other depressed people I know manage to form intimate relationships and excel at their talents while I continue to fail.I feel like no one has gone through what I am having to deal with.
Feels bad, feeling that way.
As if your situation is utterly unique, unfathomable
to any other person.
Does it seem likely that no other individual on earth has
ever experienced a situation similar to yours?
Possibly you are over emphasizing the details and
failing to recognize the commonality of human
Some of the posts directed at me come off as boasting and the rating system seems to be used to take silent jabs at me.Howso? Those describing their relationships just did not blunder into them. There were many small steps along the way where we were prepared for what seemed like chance opportunity. A decade earlier and I would have been unprepared to recognize an opportunity, much less knowing how to act and respond.
Some of the posts directed at me come off as boasting and the rating system seems to be used to take silent jabs at me.
feel like that too. the thing is that I think that it´s not unlikely that there could be someone where it fits, but there is no certainty, it could be that you never meet that person and that´s a very sad thought.I’m convinced that I have never and will never find someone I’m compatible with, and I’ve made peace with that. This is definitely a reason I feel like I’m probably “aromantic”
People who’ve outright told me they dislike me have gotten positive ratings on their posts.You feel put down because other people have done some stuff that
they're pleased about and you envy them.
It's as if you feel their happiness detracts from the possibility of having any yourself.
"...the rating system seems to be used to take silent jabs at me."
I don't see that, myself.
You seem to figure that since you rate yourself as a loser, a failure, everybody
else must evaluate you the same way.