Big Kid , Stuck in Adult Body, Facing Adult Problems?

[unsurewhattoname]

True, just wasn't a fan of 7/12, 1/2 and 2/3 are much nicer numbers I'm more familiar with.

 

[karen70]

Yep, i'm a child trapped in an adult body.

I have learnt to control myself a little.

But I do try now, I used to laugh at the wrong times etc.

I just never 'grasped' anything in life. It seemed my whole life has been a plate of spaghetti. I unravelled loads at college to the point where I felt i'd managed to untangle it all, but didn't have a clue how to join them all up to make a big straight line.

 

[karen70]

To answer the original question in basic terms: I'm presently 39 but see myself developmentally where I should have been at about 25 years old. So you could say my body is presently: NT + 14 (and/or) my mind is NT - 14.

I know the equation would be different for everyone, but maybe we should all try to correlate some type of an Aspie - NT age equation like they do for dogs (ie: To find the age of a dog you multiply their 'human' age by 7).

What's everyone else's NT age conversion equation ?

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Excellent film, watched this for the second time the other night

 

[Madotsuki]

My soul stopped aging at 16. My perception of events have not changed since, I still play the same games, emotionally still a child...Balding is my only big problem.

 

[paloftoon]

There are jobs where you work with children, and if you tend to have child-like tendencies, if you can carry this energy over to your work successfully, then you have a great "excuse" to be as you are and show off your talents. That way, you will be more mature by virtue of having an established job and can still be yourself if you can utilize this skill that all of you have. Younger children may tend to be more obedient and arguably more trustworthy before their minds are tainted. Dealing with so many children can be overwhelming though too because there is that social aspect that one would have to deal with. Maybe you could consider some professional where you are entertaining children such as being a clown or managing to get a gig on a children's show. Good luck to you all on here, and anyone else who respond in this thread similarly hereafter!

 

[midlife aspie]

I feel like a kid in the sense that I'm naive, gullible, unable to understand finances/taxes/education systems/economics, etc. But I no longer feel that youthful sense of immortality that I felt 20 years ago. I no longer behave like I've got forever! I hate parties and noise and alcohol and those things I used to copy from other people to seem normal or feel comfortable in social situations. And I worry about my future because I feel that time is running out.

And I don't like playing with my kids much... So I'm not a big kid in that sense, either.

Lately, as I've reached midlife and have come to understand myself better, I've realised I really kind of need someone to look after me. It's a bit scary to admit but it's the conclusion I've come to. I rely on my husband to interpret the big, scary grown up world for me.

I'm exactly where you are and feel the same way! We are about the same age too. I rely too much on my wife, who is starting to get annoyed. My FIL is too involved in our lives for my taste but I don't like confrontation and I would have no clue how to be a successful family man on my own.

 

[artfull dodger]

I definatly feel younger than I am in real life. Rather stay at home and play with my model trains and my antique tractors, but know I have to go to work so that I can afford to have those things. Took me till my late 20's to find the urge and desire and ablity to get past my shyness to date girls. This was all pre-diagnosis. I have been told for most of my adult life that I look much younger than my age. Mike

 

[Datura]

I often feel like more of a kid than an adult, though I hesitate to put a number on it. There are times I am told I am wise beyond my years, but when I look at where I am in life I can't help but feel left behind by my peers. Despite being in my 30s I don't drive, have never lived on my own, and struggle to even care about things like finances. People often presume I am younger than I am, and treat me accordingly. Honestly, I kind of like it that way. But I am frustrated as it seems like my development has stalled. I don't know if I will ever be a fully independent adult.

As ardently as I wish I would just "grow up" and move forward with my life I also feel a strong urge to regress. Sometimes I just want to be a toddler again and be completely taken care of. Other times I dream about what an awesome teenager I would make now, if I could just go back in time knowing what I do now. Perhaps this is an extreme reaction to my anxieties about getting older, and my regrets regarding a socially stunted adolescence.