I'm not sure what to say. I don't know if it should be formal or not. I guess formal is the way to go. But then what do I start I start with?What do you want to be able to say to his mother?
Do you plan to describe the conversations?
I could say: "Ma'am, I'm a Christian, and [my friend's name] has been turning on YouTube videos about atheists disrespecting my religious beliefs, and those videos are full of generalizations and keep on saying that all people who practice my religion are a bunch of ignorant, disgusting, unintelligent, uneducated, and awful people."
I would then follow up with, "He keeps on talking about how my beliefs are bad, and that my beliefs are inferior to you and your family's beliefs. I respect your beliefs, and I know that you, as an adult, respect mine. However, [friend's name] has been making me uncomfortable whenever he speaks about and turns on those YouTubers that're obsessed with 'debunking' the bible instead of reading between the lines, which I find offensive and disrespectful to my faith, and it makes me very uncomfortable.
Does this sound good to you?
He hasn't been aggressive to me when it comes to religion, since I haven't mentioned that what he was doing was bothering me, and I rarely mention my religion to him unless he takes a joke way too far.What is it that you want to happen, as far as your relationship with your friend?
I think what you are saying is that you want him to stop being aggressive toward you.
That might require defining the words aggression and assertion.
- For example, he made a joke similar to this wording: What do you get when you give a German Christian a gun? You get [sorry, too offensive, very ban-worthy].
I have mentioned my friend's name to my therapist before. If I say anything about my friend to my therapist, she can't say anything about what I have said to her because state code doesn't allow that. I believe I can talk to her about it no problem.You might take up this topic with your therapist, too.
You don't have to identify the individual.
You would be asking for guidance in assertive behavior.