Declaimer: Despite my parents also being non-denominational Christians like me, they don't force their religion on me, my friend, my friend's family, and anybody else. I also never shoved my religion down his throat. I just wish he would eventually realize that he would realize I'm uncomfortable when he does this without me saying. I need advice on what to say if I DO end up needing to say that what he's doing makes me uncomfortable, which I would most likely do on December 12, which is when my parents are going to a Trans Siberian Orchestra concert. Also, I was unsure if I should put this in the "Friends, Family, and Social Skills" thread or not, but, since this topic is religious in nature, I'll just put it here.
My friend keeps shoving his atheism down my throat, and doesn't realize that I am uncomfortable about it. So, for more details, my best friend, who I have known since the 6th grade (who is also an Aspie), is an atheist. I am a (non-denominational) Christian.
We also watch YouTube videos while hanging out with each other. However, he insists on shoving videos about atheists dehumanizing, demonizing, antagonizing, and putting down me and my fellow Christians just because they are insecure and just want to feel dominance over others and think that their "facts" and "knowledge" are better than what he and those content creators supposedly call "lies," "inconsistencies," "propaganda," "toxic indoctrination," and "the promotion of sexism, racism, violence, rape, homophobia, and murder" that is apparently found (it's not) in the bible.
My friend and the people who make these crappy videos don't even own the bible. He is also immature, ignorant, and I kinda blame his parents for him being this way because they are also atheists and believe in all of the SJW-level generalizations that were made up against Christians. I even recall his mom saying, "All Churches are Homophobic."
I am getting tired of him doing this and not refusing to understand what I am trying to say to them. He always gets defensive and irritated when I try to say that something he is currently doing makes me feel uncomfortable. Unfortunately, the atheist mind takes things too literally and call whatever famous 2, 3, or 4, or maybe 5 to 10 lines of scripture that are one of paradox-types of verses, they call it a "contradiction" because they refuse to get any of it's true meaning out of it. I can't explain what these mean, since I'm not a pastor, priest, theologian, or bishop, I only listen to and learn from them.
I just want him to stop shoving what he calls "logic" and "truth" (atheism isn't actually that logical and truthful, but agnosticism somewhat passes for those two labels, IMO) and just shoving his opinions and the propaganda that his parents and the internet has been feeding to him on the regular.
It kind of makes me feel like he has a prejudice against me for it, and I feel like he doesn't even consider/care that I feel this way whenever he plays these uneducated, biased, and uninformed videos and tries to use his atheism as a topic for conversation.
I love my friends, and I want to keep them for as long as I want, but I feel like all I can respond to him with when he does this is to either pretend I'm watching those propaganda-filled with him, or just pay keep or tell him to turn off the video and make up excuses like "this dude's/woman's voice is boring," "the video looks a little block/the bitrate seems a bit fuzzy," "the editing seems kinda off/the editing looks kinda poorly organized," or, something I say often, "this dude looks ugly and gets way too close to the camera for my comfort."
Also, should I speak to him directly, or tell him to let me talk to his mom? I'm pretty sure he'd blow up if I talk to him directly about it, since he has emotional problems, which he refuses to fix them with the help of me, my best friend and his family, since he blames it on his Asperger's Syndrome (a higher-functioning diagnosis than mine). That is kind of ironic, since he knows that I had emotional issues in the past, and now I have clearly fixed most, if not all of those issues. And I've been diagnosed with PDD-NOS (but prefer to be called an Aspie, simply because that rolls off the tongue smoother) when I was eight years old!
As I said, I love my friend very much, I respect his beliefs, and I mean no harm in trying to tell him to back off. It's just that I think he'd just stay in his own ignorant and godless world, and not listen to whatever advice I'm trying to give him so I can help him to improve himself.
I am afraid that he'll pick on a radical Christian (whom I don't associate with or agree with), and he would end up either end up injured and in a hospital, or, even dead, because their argument turned physical. I want him to be a better person and stop being ignorant and immature. Both for his own well-being.
I just need to know how to tell him to stop shoving his beliefs into my face and down my throat with getting mad at me and hurting my feelings. I feel like, if I don't do something about this right away, I'd have to straight-up stop being friends with him right when his hatred for my religion and the comfort I have when I remember that Jesus loves me and my friend (despite my friend not knowing that) no matter what.
Please, I need your advice. If you don't have advice, positive words is all that is fine with me. Can't think of anything to say? Well, I'd appreciate it if you can give the nonsense I'm spewing a rating, just so I know you read all the way down to this point and cared enough to be friendly. Thank you.
Also, can you also pray for my best friend, he also has depression and has attempted suicide numerous times in the past, and I don't want him to attempt again and succeed. Thanks again.
My friend keeps shoving his atheism down my throat, and doesn't realize that I am uncomfortable about it. So, for more details, my best friend, who I have known since the 6th grade (who is also an Aspie), is an atheist. I am a (non-denominational) Christian.
We also watch YouTube videos while hanging out with each other. However, he insists on shoving videos about atheists dehumanizing, demonizing, antagonizing, and putting down me and my fellow Christians just because they are insecure and just want to feel dominance over others and think that their "facts" and "knowledge" are better than what he and those content creators supposedly call "lies," "inconsistencies," "propaganda," "toxic indoctrination," and "the promotion of sexism, racism, violence, rape, homophobia, and murder" that is apparently found (it's not) in the bible.
My friend and the people who make these crappy videos don't even own the bible. He is also immature, ignorant, and I kinda blame his parents for him being this way because they are also atheists and believe in all of the SJW-level generalizations that were made up against Christians. I even recall his mom saying, "All Churches are Homophobic."
I am getting tired of him doing this and not refusing to understand what I am trying to say to them. He always gets defensive and irritated when I try to say that something he is currently doing makes me feel uncomfortable. Unfortunately, the atheist mind takes things too literally and call whatever famous 2, 3, or 4, or maybe 5 to 10 lines of scripture that are one of paradox-types of verses, they call it a "contradiction" because they refuse to get any of it's true meaning out of it. I can't explain what these mean, since I'm not a pastor, priest, theologian, or bishop, I only listen to and learn from them.
I just want him to stop shoving what he calls "logic" and "truth" (atheism isn't actually that logical and truthful, but agnosticism somewhat passes for those two labels, IMO) and just shoving his opinions and the propaganda that his parents and the internet has been feeding to him on the regular.
It kind of makes me feel like he has a prejudice against me for it, and I feel like he doesn't even consider/care that I feel this way whenever he plays these uneducated, biased, and uninformed videos and tries to use his atheism as a topic for conversation.
I love my friends, and I want to keep them for as long as I want, but I feel like all I can respond to him with when he does this is to either pretend I'm watching those propaganda-filled with him, or just pay keep or tell him to turn off the video and make up excuses like "this dude's/woman's voice is boring," "the video looks a little block/the bitrate seems a bit fuzzy," "the editing seems kinda off/the editing looks kinda poorly organized," or, something I say often, "this dude looks ugly and gets way too close to the camera for my comfort."
Also, should I speak to him directly, or tell him to let me talk to his mom? I'm pretty sure he'd blow up if I talk to him directly about it, since he has emotional problems, which he refuses to fix them with the help of me, my best friend and his family, since he blames it on his Asperger's Syndrome (a higher-functioning diagnosis than mine). That is kind of ironic, since he knows that I had emotional issues in the past, and now I have clearly fixed most, if not all of those issues. And I've been diagnosed with PDD-NOS (but prefer to be called an Aspie, simply because that rolls off the tongue smoother) when I was eight years old!
As I said, I love my friend very much, I respect his beliefs, and I mean no harm in trying to tell him to back off. It's just that I think he'd just stay in his own ignorant and godless world, and not listen to whatever advice I'm trying to give him so I can help him to improve himself.
I am afraid that he'll pick on a radical Christian (whom I don't associate with or agree with), and he would end up either end up injured and in a hospital, or, even dead, because their argument turned physical. I want him to be a better person and stop being ignorant and immature. Both for his own well-being.
I just need to know how to tell him to stop shoving his beliefs into my face and down my throat with getting mad at me and hurting my feelings. I feel like, if I don't do something about this right away, I'd have to straight-up stop being friends with him right when his hatred for my religion and the comfort I have when I remember that Jesus loves me and my friend (despite my friend not knowing that) no matter what.
Please, I need your advice. If you don't have advice, positive words is all that is fine with me. Can't think of anything to say? Well, I'd appreciate it if you can give the nonsense I'm spewing a rating, just so I know you read all the way down to this point and cared enough to be friendly. Thank you.
Also, can you also pray for my best friend, he also has depression and has attempted suicide numerous times in the past, and I don't want him to attempt again and succeed. Thanks again.
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