Its something that you can accept, being single. It gets easier as you get older. Im worried mr fox if you dont learn to say what is just is, then you will cripple your already damaged spirit.
This is an obsession you are describing, not rational ideation at all. There is way to much poor me, and poverty consciousness. I knew a man was functionally illiterate, he ran his own construction company. You write your own rules in life, and you are writing yours everytime you re affirm what some toxic expletive deleted person on another site convinced you of. This expletive deleted person was some kinda expert then? The one told you that you're labled now, like a cheap pair of flipflops? Forever to remain so, got a freakin stamp on you says reject?
People prey upon us you know, on these sites like this one here. Trolls is what they are called. They set the bar pretty high here, abuse not allowed, trolls get the boot. not so everywhere.
There are no standards to compare yourself to. There are lots of other options for sex partners. Models are annoying. Most big women really like to cook. I like big women, thats my thing, i think skinny people look sickly. Some people look just sort of plain or kinda nerdy. Who set your standards for you?
You want some free advice? Stop talking about anything but what she just said.
There just do that. See what happens.
Remember what she says. Ask her opinion. Remember what she says. Be nice. Show respect. Just dont ever talk about yourself at all, would be best for now, because you got nothin to say. Nothin good anyways, and you need to work on that. You let sombody steal your awesomeness, or else gave it away.
Tell her what you admire about everyone, they all like that. Who do you look up to? Why are those people important?
Dont mention video games, like ever. No self depreciating remarks of any kind. Talk about how much you love your mother, animals and children
Meet her at the library with a sack lunch for two,
what are you supposed to have in common with a lady needs a fancy restaurant?
They dont give a bit of concern for dollars, if they drive a lexus. Got her own money, dont want yours. Ladies like a man who is clean, smells good, is physically fit, friendly, fun to be with and good in bed. Some of that you can fix ya know. Even on short rations you can gain muscle,.....
You know that some women are kinda like promiscuous by choice right? They pride themselves on being free to choose and all that, some of them choose alot. Nothing wrong with that. Yoga class is where you meet the yum yums at.
Also who filled your head with all this worthless crap? If your self image had value it would be useful. You let some punk troll convince you that you have no value, so now you are convinced that you are worthless. Time to take the power back? I live on a very humble amount likely less than you. No regular job. I would love to get ssi, dont qualify. I drive a beat to snot ranch truck, its never been washed.
I had several first dates and two fling things in 2020 with the freakin virus goin on.
So ..... consider the scource of the information, and as always ask
Quo bono?
Ps dating sites are a total waste of time and money, its a total front and a phishing scam, absolutely worthless!
Volunteer, go to church, go to a farm, go to a winery, go to an art exhibit, get the fork back in school (thats almost too easy at school, and a good enough reason to go) join the kiwanis club, join a hiking club, do something that demonstrates value.
Pps its way more fun to do things in small groups, also less threatening, and so shorter path for her to get to yes.