Living with Autism
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Hello all!
I hope you all are having a wonderful day so far. I am new to this community. I have a financee that I suspect is on the spectrum. She is extremely smart in the area of academic but she struggles in social settings. She fits all the criteria in the DSM V for ASD. However, she is not diagnosed. I need your help with the following:
This coming summer, I will be traveling with my family to my home country that I haven't been to since 25 years. I invited my fiancee to company me on the trip with my family. She agreed to go. She is a graduate student getting her Master in Psychology. In order for her to graduate, she will need to take a comprehensive exam this coming September. Our trip is from July to August. We had a big fight yesterday because she was upset that I told her that we will be staying with my family while we're on vacation (which I invited her to join our family). We are renting a 4 bedroom house while we are on vacation. She is upset that she will not have the time to study because we are staying with my family and we are known to be "loud" and my sister has small children that wake up very early. My fiancee stated that she rather get a separate hotel room with just me and her. I told her financially I cannot get another place since I covered everything for her (plane ticket and expenses). In addition, this trip is a family trip and it doesn't make sense if we stay in separate places. She continues to state that she wants her own space with her own restroom so that she is not being rushed.
She further stated that she feels like I am not being understanding to her school situation. I let her know that we will have time to study since I am also a student and will be studying for my comprehensive exam. No matter how I explain to her she insisted on me forcing her to adapt to my family way. This is suppose to be a vacation but turn out very stressful and she is not understand that we are inviting her to join along. She further wants the environment to change and accommodate to her needs instead of understanding how it would affect the people around her.
I need help as I feel helpless!!
Thank you in advance!
I hope you all are having a wonderful day so far. I am new to this community. I have a financee that I suspect is on the spectrum. She is extremely smart in the area of academic but she struggles in social settings. She fits all the criteria in the DSM V for ASD. However, she is not diagnosed. I need your help with the following:
This coming summer, I will be traveling with my family to my home country that I haven't been to since 25 years. I invited my fiancee to company me on the trip with my family. She agreed to go. She is a graduate student getting her Master in Psychology. In order for her to graduate, she will need to take a comprehensive exam this coming September. Our trip is from July to August. We had a big fight yesterday because she was upset that I told her that we will be staying with my family while we're on vacation (which I invited her to join our family). We are renting a 4 bedroom house while we are on vacation. She is upset that she will not have the time to study because we are staying with my family and we are known to be "loud" and my sister has small children that wake up very early. My fiancee stated that she rather get a separate hotel room with just me and her. I told her financially I cannot get another place since I covered everything for her (plane ticket and expenses). In addition, this trip is a family trip and it doesn't make sense if we stay in separate places. She continues to state that she wants her own space with her own restroom so that she is not being rushed.
She further stated that she feels like I am not being understanding to her school situation. I let her know that we will have time to study since I am also a student and will be studying for my comprehensive exam. No matter how I explain to her she insisted on me forcing her to adapt to my family way. This is suppose to be a vacation but turn out very stressful and she is not understand that we are inviting her to join along. She further wants the environment to change and accommodate to her needs instead of understanding how it would affect the people around her.
I need help as I feel helpless!!
Thank you in advance!